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Post by Dee on Nov 4, 2016 14:16:15 GMT
Bringing this thread back! Hey, I'm a lady, and I love ladies, and I just... revolve my life around cute ladies and I love 'em.
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Post by StrongSweet on Nov 4, 2016 16:46:20 GMT
the song in reference to sexuality, where?
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Post by Deleted on Nov 4, 2016 18:29:37 GMT
I just want to make something clear. You don't HAVE to have everything figured out. You don't have to have labels to define you. In fact, I think it's best to remain indefinable. Some people fit the box, but there's many that don't fit a particular box. But I really want to make clear that you could be 15 or you could be 80 and not have everything figured out about yourself, and it's okay. There's also 1000000 other more important things about yourself. Please don't fall into the trend of making your sexuality a personality trait.
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Post by Mohican. on Nov 26, 2016 10:37:46 GMT
Bringing this thread back! Hey, I'm a lady, and I love ladies, and I just... revolve my life around cute ladies and I love 'em. Hell yeah! I just want to make something clear. You don't HAVE to have everything figured out. You don't have to have labels to define you. In fact, I think it's best to remain indefinable. Some people fit the box, but there's many that don't fit a particular box. But I really want to make clear that you could be 15 or you could be 80 and not have everything figured out about yourself, and it's okay. There's also 1000000 other more important things about yourself. Please don't fall into the trend of making your sexuality a personality trait.I agree except for that bolded part. It doesn't matte how you label yourself. It doesn't matter how you identify yourself in your sexuality as well as gender. Sometimes there's a word you can relate to so you take it. Sometimes there's not. But your sexuality is a part of you and not a little one either. And your sexuality is a personality trait, because it is part of who you are. Even if you are not sexual at all, then this is a part of you. If you know how you identify yourself sexually, it makes a part of who you are. If you don't know how you identify yourself sexually, this makes a part of you, too. But it is only one of the many parts that form your very own personality, it's really just one of the many. And by over-thinking that you do yourself no good. But it's hard to don't know where to fit in, because people want to fit in somewhere. And it's a shame that even the LGBT-Community often turns out to be as intolerant as a Trump et. So the struggle's real. I remember being treated with laughter when I said I was bisexual. Some told me I had to choose, other's pointed out that they wouldn't hook up with someone who doesn't know what they want. But in fact I did know who I was. So I think this is an issue. And some have to face it more than others. In the end I think you just have to find your very own definition regardless of it existing in any kind of community or not. You have to feel comfortable with your very own definition and other's will have to learn respect and tolerance. And that is the crucial part.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 26, 2016 11:18:02 GMT
I just want to make something clear. You don't HAVE to have everything figured out. You don't have to have labels to define you. In fact, I think it's best to remain indefinable. Some people fit the box, but there's many that don't fit a particular box. But I really want to make clear that you could be 15 or you could be 80 and not have everything figured out about yourself, and it's okay. There's also 1000000 other more important things about yourself. Please don't fall into the trend of making your sexuality a personality trait.I agree except for that bolded part. It doesn't matte how you label yourself. It doesn't matter how you identify yourself in your sexuality as well as gender. Sometimes there's a word you can relate to so you take it. Sometimes there's not. But your sexuality is a part of you and not a little one either. And your sexuality is a personality trait, because it is part of who you are. Even if you are not sexual at all, then this is a part of you. If you know how you identify yourself sexually, it makes a part of who you are. If you don't know how you identify yourself sexually, this makes a part of you, too. But it is only one of the many parts that form your very own personality, it's really just one of the many. And by over-thinking that you do yourself no good. But it's hard to don't know where to fit in, because people want to fit in somewhere. And it's a shame that even the LGBT-Community often turns out to be as intolerant as a Trump et. So the struggle's real. I remember being treated with laughter when I said I was bisexual. Some told me I had to choose, other's pointed out that they wouldn't hook up with someone who doesn't know what they want. But in fact I did know who I was. So I think this is an issue. And some have to face it more than others. In the end I think you just have to find your very own definition regardless of it existing in any kind of community or not. You have to feel comfortable with your very own definition and other's will have to learn respect and tolerance. And that is the crucial part.Indeed. I think respect and tolerance comes from education and understanding. It doesn't have to be a Harvard lecture, but you cannot expect ignorant people to understand the difference between bisexuality and indecision unless you explain it to them. Granted, some people still won't get it, or won't like it, but do you really need their approval to be happy? Do you even need them in your life? *shrug*
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Post by Dee on Nov 26, 2016 12:17:19 GMT
I agree except for that bolded part. It doesn't matte how you label yourself. It doesn't matter how you identify yourself in your sexuality as well as gender. Sometimes there's a word you can relate to so you take it. Sometimes there's not. But your sexuality is a part of you and not a little one either. And your sexuality is a personality trait, because it is part of who you are. Even if you are not sexual at all, then this is a part of you. If you know how you identify yourself sexually, it makes a part of who you are. If you don't know how you identify yourself sexually, this makes a part of you, too. But it is only one of the many parts that form your very own personality, it's really just one of the many. And by over-thinking that you do yourself no good. But it's hard to don't know where to fit in, because people want to fit in somewhere. And it's a shame that even the LGBT-Community often turns out to be as intolerant as a Trump et. So the struggle's real. I remember being treated with laughter when I said I was bisexual. Some told me I had to choose, other's pointed out that they wouldn't hook up with someone who doesn't know what they want. But in fact I did know who I was. So I think this is an issue. And some have to face it more than others. In the end I think you just have to find your very own definition regardless of it existing in any kind of community or not. You have to feel comfortable with your very own definition and other's will have to learn respect and tolerance. And that is the crucial part.
It doesn't have to be a Harvard lecture I read that as "Harvey" lecture I agree though. Your sexuality does creep into your personality, if even by a small bit. In my case, no one told me to choose or to make up my mind, because they all treated it like one and the same thing. I remember when I first started to come out(when I was about 10 or 11) I actually used to tell people that I was bisexual because I thought they'd still all respect me if I said I was bi instead of a lesbian. I learned my lesson, needless to say One girl said she wouldn't sit beside a bisexual person in class. The few guys in my class were all around major idiots but they decided to take it to the next level and commented on every single facebook post of mine, constantly feeling the need to repeat the fact that I am a lesbian(despite me saying otherwise - but again, they thought it was all the same), telling me that it's wrong and that I - and whoever was my friend at the time - should kill ourselves, slit our wrists, blah blah all that stuff. So that was when I said, you know what - Fuck all y'all, yeah I'm gay. It's not like you ignorant dicks would react any different to that anyway Best thing is after all these years they(grown ups) still either avoid me on the street or yell profanities at me, all while I'm having a normal life.
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Post by Nastaran on Nov 27, 2016 9:00:34 GMT
Awww I feel a little bit alone being straight here In my country it's a big big crime to be gay/lesbian. Coming out is totally different here. I think gay/lesbian people here can only come out to their families and close friends (if they are really brave). Others hide their feelings. Because government will actually execute them. I think it's so unfair to force someone to avoid their feelings. I had a friend in high school ( not a very close friend but she talked to me about having a problem a few times ) I remember the pain she went through . I didn't know the reason why she was so miserable back then. But I remember her being alone and mysteriously in pain. I remember her saying "No one will understand" a few times .After she came out a few years later I suddenly realized everything. That was the moment I became so supportive of them. Because that was the moment I realized it's real and they really should not be treated this way. I hope you guys never experience such pain and fear. And I hope you all can be with someone you truly love
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Post by Deleted on Nov 27, 2016 9:16:51 GMT
Awww I feel a little bit alone being straight here In my country it's a big big crime to be gay/lesbian. Coming out is totally different here. I think gay/lesbian people here can only come out to their families and close friends (if they are really brave). Others hide their feelings. Because government will actually execute them. I think it's so unfair to force someone to avoid their feelings. I had a friend in high school ( not a very close friend but she talked to me about having a problem a few times ) I remember the pain she went through . I didn't know the reason why she was so miserable back then. But I remember her being alone and mysteriously in pain. I remember her saying "No one will understand" a few times .After she came out a few years later I suddenly realized everything. That was the moment I became so supportive of them. Because that was the moment I realized it's real and they really should not be treated this way. I hope you guys never experience such pain and fear. And I hope you all can be with someone you truly love You're not. Though a straight thread would be a bit redundant I guess. This isn't eharmony.
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Post by sam on Nov 27, 2016 21:41:00 GMT
I'm of the opinion that sexuality isn't a personality trait - sure, it is part of who we are but it does not give us characteristics or qualities. I really dislike the fact that recently, labels to do with sexuality, gender etc are more being used as a fashion accessory so to speak nowadays (this isn't aimed at anyone in this thread - I mean on tumblr and sites like that) Have said that, I'm not 100% keen on labels and I wish we lived in a world where we didn't have to say anything to our family and friends about our preference, where we weren't called anything in relation our sexuality, but there you go.
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Post by Dee on Nov 27, 2016 22:29:47 GMT
Awww I feel a little bit alone being straight here In my country it's a big big crime to be gay/lesbian. Coming out is totally different here. I think gay/lesbian people here can only come out to their families and close friends (if they are really brave). Others hide their feelings. Because government will actually execute them. I think it's so unfair to force someone to avoid their feelings. I had a friend in high school ( not a very close friend but she talked to me about having a problem a few times ) I remember the pain she went through . I didn't know the reason why she was so miserable back then. But I remember her being alone and mysteriously in pain. I remember her saying "No one will understand" a few times .After she came out a few years later I suddenly realized everything. That was the moment I became so supportive of them. Because that was the moment I realized it's real and they really should not be treated this way. I hope you guys never experience such pain and fear. And I hope you all can be with someone you truly love Those are such sweet words from you In my home country it's beginning to become a sort of "crime" - soon it probably will be, though, as they do a bunch of crazy things, like wanting to evict all atheists from the country.... So glad I live in Ireland. I'm of the opinion that sexuality isn't a personality trait - sure, it is part of who we are but it does not give us characteristics or qualities. I really dislike the fact that recently, labels to do with sexuality, gender etc are more being used as a fashion accessory so to speak nowadays (this isn't aimed at anyone in this thread - I mean on tumblr and sites like that) Have said that, I'm not 100% keen on labels and I wish we lived in a world where we didn't have to say anything to our family and friends about our preference, where we weren't called anything in relation our sexuality, but there you go. I wouldn't say it's a personality trait per se - but it can definitely add to it and creep in. But I'm no psychology major I agree about the fashion accessory thing, I couldn't have said it better. A lot of them also get "offended" or "triggered" if you decide not to state your preferences or if you are straight. I don't get them. Personally, when I'm on tumblr, I tend to try to avoid those people. I also find it annoying when people feel the need to disclose their sexuality every second sentence, or in every single one of their profiles. If I look at someone's "about me" page, the first thing I want to know is their name, not their sexuality. Hell, I don't even care about their sexuality, I just want to know what name to call them by and that's it. They're almost as annoying as "hot asians in your area" ads
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Post by sam on Nov 27, 2016 22:42:46 GMT
Awww I feel a little bit alone being straight here In my country it's a big big crime to be gay/lesbian. Coming out is totally different here. I think gay/lesbian people here can only come out to their families and close friends (if they are really brave). Others hide their feelings. Because government will actually execute them. I think it's so unfair to force someone to avoid their feelings. I had a friend in high school ( not a very close friend but she talked to me about having a problem a few times ) I remember the pain she went through . I didn't know the reason why she was so miserable back then. But I remember her being alone and mysteriously in pain. I remember her saying "No one will understand" a few times .After she came out a few years later I suddenly realized everything. That was the moment I became so supportive of them. Because that was the moment I realized it's real and they really should not be treated this way. I hope you guys never experience such pain and fear. And I hope you all can be with someone you truly love Those are such sweet words from you In my home country it's beginning to become a sort of "crime" - soon it probably will be, though, as they do a bunch of crazy things, like wanting to evict all atheists from the country.... So glad I live in Ireland. I'm of the opinion that sexuality isn't a personality trait - sure, it is part of who we are but it does not give us characteristics or qualities. I really dislike the fact that recently, labels to do with sexuality, gender etc are more being used as a fashion accessory so to speak nowadays (this isn't aimed at anyone in this thread - I mean on tumblr and sites like that) Have said that, I'm not 100% keen on labels and I wish we lived in a world where we didn't have to say anything to our family and friends about our preference, where we weren't called anything in relation our sexuality, but there you go. I wouldn't say it's a personality trait per se - but it can definitely add to it and creep in. But I'm no psychology major I agree about the fashion accessory thing, I couldn't have said it better. A lot of them also get "offended" or "triggered" if you decide not to state your preferences or if you are straight. I don't get them. Personally, when I'm on tumblr, I tend to try to avoid those people. I also find it annoying when people feel the need to disclose their sexuality every second sentence, or in every single one of their profiles. If I look at someone's "about me" page, the first thing I want to know is their name, not their sexuality. Hell, I don't even care about their sexuality, I just want to know what name to call them by and that's it. They're almost as annoying as "hot asians in your area" ads I agree with everything you said but the personality stuff I've met plenty of feminine straight guys and masculine gay guys To me, sexuality is nothing more than what gender you are attracted to.
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Post by Dee on Nov 27, 2016 23:42:41 GMT
Those are such sweet words from you In my home country it's beginning to become a sort of "crime" - soon it probably will be, though, as they do a bunch of crazy things, like wanting to evict all atheists from the country.... So glad I live in Ireland. I wouldn't say it's a personality trait per se - but it can definitely add to it and creep in. But I'm no psychology major I agree about the fashion accessory thing, I couldn't have said it better. A lot of them also get "offended" or "triggered" if you decide not to state your preferences or if you are straight. I don't get them. Personally, when I'm on tumblr, I tend to try to avoid those people. I also find it annoying when people feel the need to disclose their sexuality every second sentence, or in every single one of their profiles. If I look at someone's "about me" page, the first thing I want to know is their name, not their sexuality. Hell, I don't even care about their sexuality, I just want to know what name to call them by and that's it. They're almost as annoying as "hot asians in your area" ads I agree with everything you said but the personality stuff I've met plenty of feminine straight guys and masculine gay guys To me, sexuality is nothing more than what gender you are attracted to. Well what I mean by it creeping up is that it can show sometimes. Like one can be a huge womanizer and be a guy or a girl, and then people will probably know them as the person that's crazy about ladies. Maybe personality was the wrong word for me to use though... language barrier
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Post by Deleted on Jul 16, 2018 8:30:47 GMT
I may have a few posts from my "old" account here about questioning about being ace, but it's no longer a matter of questioning but instead of acceptance. I am ace.
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