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Post by sliperslip on Apr 11, 2017 18:15:34 GMT
It's funny you say this because I kind of have been wanting to write one but just haven't found the time yet. I will s**n though I just came back from working a remote production with the super hot guy OMG guys I can't He drove us there and after I said "thanks for driving the bus" (FYI it wasn't actually a bus, it was just a joke ) hehe ok Bogo we are waiting for you just don't leave us in the dark and please don't bring the 4th guy in the picture, we already are not sure how to advice you for the otoher three guys
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Post by BogoGog24 on Apr 14, 2017 19:28:01 GMT
Ok here's my update: So to recap in case you guys don't remember or don't know, there's 3 guys I work with. For the sake of their privacy I'm changing their names to Tim, Z, and Jack. I think I've finally at least sorted out how I feel where Jack is concerned. He was the one where I said we get along real well, but I don't know if I'd ever necessarily date him. Well I think I really do just only like him as a friend. Although last night I saw him on his Snapchat and he was baking with a female, presumably a friend I guess, but I don't know, but it made me honestly feel a little jealous, which is weird if I don't like him in that way. But yeah I've concluded to myself that I think I just really like his company, like working with him, and like being his friend. But likely wouldn't go beyond that. So It's really just between Tim and Z. Lately I have been liking Z more and more. I even think about him more often than I used to think about Dalton (which, if you know me, is a lot ), hell I'm even starting to think he may be even hotter than Dalton is (which, again, if you know me, is like ) Now I've said before that I'm aware probably 90% of my reasons for liking Z have to do with his looks. He's really masculine, which I like. He's also rather religious and I presume that means he has a good set of morals and values. I'm not as religious as he is, but it's something I consider to be an important part of my life and we'd mostly be on the same page where morals, etc. are concerned. I really appreciate his talent as a video editor. He's nice. He's pretty intelligent and knowledgeable about stuff. The problem is I don't know a huge amount of stuff about him because I don't get a chance to talk with him a lot. So it's hard to like someone based on anything other than looks when you don't know much about them personally. That's not to say though, that the more time I do spend with him, the more that I think I could like him. I just find him appealing. I'm not saying I have to marry the guy or anything But I do get butterflies around him, I get that typical nervous feeling around him when you like someone. That's how you're supposed to feel about someone you like. Maybe it's just a phase and I'll get over it soon, who knows. Now Tim, on the other hand, I've already explained how our friendship is. I never have those kinds of nervous feelings around him, which is ultimately a good thing, as I feel like I can be 100% comfortable and myself around him, and he doesn't judge me. But I'm not sure what it exactly means when you can be in love with someone yet not feel those nervous feelings or anything around them. Whenever he talks about past girlfriends he's had, it doesn't really make me as jealous as you would think that it would. I don't know. I almost feel like my feelings are so "dead" when it comes to him. And yet I do love him. I love him as a friend and I care very much about him. I'm really close to him. It's weird. He's also been acting weird lately. Where I last left off, I said we were going to see Dalton together. We did. Afterwards we went to eat and he offered to pay. We were the only people in the restaurant besides like one person at the bar and it was weird, like we were just sitting together eating and it was fine. Sometimes I feel like when we're together or we're eating together, etc. that we're like that old married couple that's just comfortable with each other, like we can just "be" together. We don't have to talk. Lately he's been doing things like patting me on the head and tousling my hair. The other day we were talking about something, I forget what, but I said something, and then he patted me on the head and goes "You're adorable." Not even saying it like he was joking or being sarcastic. One day I wore some colored lip gloss to work and he was like "Are you wearing makeup?" and I was like "I wear makeup every day" thinking he meant my foundation and then I realized he meant my lip gloss and he gave me a thumbs up and said "I approve." He always notices things like when I wear makeup, get a new haircut, or change my nail polish color. I'm getting the sense that means he maybe likes me which is honestly all I've been wanting for 2 years. But then Z had to come in and mess it all up! That's why I keep thinking maybe my crush on Z is just that - a crush. I don't love him. I'm certainly not IN love with him. Maybe it's just a phase that I'll get over. On the other hand, I can really picture him being my boyfriend. Even though my other problem where he's concerned is that I don't feel good enough for him. He has model good looks (I won't post his photo but if you're curious to know how he looks, look up the actor Bryan Greenberg. He looks similar to him if he had blue eyes, ears that don't stick out as much, and a fuller beard ) As I mentioned, he's deeply religious, he never swears or anything like that. Me on the other hand, I swear like a sailor, love to wear black, and skulls. I frequently make kind of sarcastic comments because that's just my sense of humor, but I feel like maybe sometimes he doesn't find it funny. He's laughed sometimes at things that I've said, other times not. And the thing that is probably most important to me in a guy is they have to make me laugh and he's never really made me laugh, I mean once in awhile he does, but I've looked at his Twitter for example and his tweets are honestly so boring. Maybe a couple here and there were funny. But again, I haven't talked to him much. For all I know, he's the type of person who comes out of his shell more when you get to know him better (that's the way I am). Sometimes I just feel like I've honestly made a bad impression on him. Like maybe sometimes he thinks I'm cool, and other times he thinks I'm annoying. I can't really tell what he thinks about me. I've just followed him on Twitter and had to request to follow him on Instagram because his account was private, so we'll see if he follows back. If not, I guess I have my answer about what he thinks of me. But I also feel like I'm just overthinking everything as I am wont to do, like I'm sure all he thinks about me is that I'm just some dorky girl he works with and that's it, whereas to me I'm just like "oh my god he's so perfect, I want to date him so bad." I wish that I could just NOT like him. In a perfect world, I would be in love with Tim and he would be in love with me, we'd date, and live happily ever after. But that's not how it is. And honestly I am really sick of liking guys who I either have no chance with or who don't feel the same way about me. It's the fucking story of my life, you guys have no idea. I have been rejected by every single guy I've ever liked. I have never had a boyfriend. I was never asked to my high school prom. I have never been asked out on a date. I just wish that for ONCE maybe a good looking guy would like me and want to take me out, I'm not saying we have to get married. I just don't know if I could handle being rejected by another guy again. I know what you guys will say. You'll say that Tim is the right guy for me. And I know that in reality he probably is. But you know... feelings and stuff. As the all knowing Avril once wisely said, "Why ya gotta make things so complicated?"
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Post by ben545 on Apr 14, 2017 20:21:30 GMT
I kind of have a crush on this girl at work. I don't really have a crush on her but I just constantly find myself imagining what it would be like to fuck her. I'm very respectful to her and she's very respectful to me, we have a very professional relationship so I would have no idea about how to go about making a move on her without completely upsetting the professionalism of our relationship and most probably making a total fool of myself. She has made me look foolish in the past by asking her stupid questions about her religion that have landed me in trouble for not being sympathetic enough to her religious persuasion if that makes sense.
It's not even a crush really, I just find her Muslim way of doing things very sensible and rather attractive. She dresses very conservatively with a head scarf covering her hair. I know she is quite short and must have a curvaceous figure but because she just drapes clothes over her i don't really know what her figure looks like. She never swears and I'm really impressed by the way she conducts herself. I have also learnt to swear less too under her authority as she told me to stop swearing so much because I used to sometimes swear in front of the customers by mistake. Some Muslims can be very pleasant in the way they conduct themselves and practice their religion and I guess she falls into this category..... It's just that all the conservatism and self restraint makes me all the more curious to know what it would be like to have a physical relationship with her. To screw her on top of the sink in the sorting room... gosh! I can't imagine. lol!
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Post by sliperslip on Apr 14, 2017 23:51:10 GMT
and I thought i will give as update like, "ok, I know which one of these boys is perfect for me, I'm not confused anymore" and now even I'm confused it must be happening a lot in your head.I hope u get less confused and find a right boy, maybe one of them or maybe the 4th one, who knows, but don't focus on rejections and don't let them take your courage for the future, when the right man come along those rejections won't matter anymore, I couldn't say this in more cliché way:D p.s. you talk so much about Dalton that I need to go and check this guy now
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Post by BogoGog24 on Apr 14, 2017 23:53:16 GMT
and I thought i will give as update like, "ok, I know which one of these boys is perfect for me, I'm not confused anymore" and now even I'm confused it must be happening a lot in your head.I hope u get less confused and find a right boy, maybe one of them or maybe the 4th one, who knows, but don't focus on rejections and don't let them take your courage for the future, when the right man come along those rejections won't matter anymore, I couldn't say this in more cliché way:D p.s. you talk so much about Dalton that I need to go and check this guy now Honestly you should, he's a really great songwriter! He does remind me in some ways of a male Avril.
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Post by sliperslip on Apr 14, 2017 23:55:02 GMT
and I thought i will give as update like, "ok, I know which one of these boys is perfect for me, I'm not confused anymore" and now even I'm confused it must be happening a lot in your head.I hope u get less confused and find a right boy, maybe one of them or maybe the 4th one, who knows, but don't focus on rejections and don't let them take your courage for the future, when the right man come along those rejections won't matter anymore, I couldn't say this in more cliché way:D p.s. you talk so much about Dalton that I need to go and check this guy now Honestly you should, he's a really great songwriter! He does remind me in some ways of a male Avril. suggest me your favorite five songs from him
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Post by BogoGog24 on Apr 15, 2017 1:24:38 GMT
Honestly you should, he's a really great songwriter! He does remind me in some ways of a male Avril. suggest me your favorite five songs from him Hercules The Rain (live version exists only) Madison's Favorite Toys Holy Man (live version exists only) Stay Up with Me (live full band version) Bonus: His cover of Brain Stew by Green Day is genius There's so many songs he has though. That's like recommending my top 5 Avril songs. Not possible! If you need anything else PM me as I think we're getting off topic now
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Post by Deleted on Apr 17, 2017 11:31:36 GMT
...imagining what it would be like to fuck her. I'm very respectful to her...
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Post by BogoGog24 on Apr 17, 2017 23:59:26 GMT
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Post by Avengium on Apr 18, 2017 0:11:43 GMT
Avril of course and Tracer from Overwatch are my baes 😍😍😍 Thank to T1 spork for helping me find the title for this thread.
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Post by ben545 on Apr 18, 2017 11:43:38 GMT
...imagining what it would be like to fuck her. I'm very respectful to her... I just don't think it's healthy to have crushes on anybody. Crushes and feelings of pining for someone elses attention are just unhealthy and at best delusional at worst creepy. There's no good reason for having a crush on anyone.
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Post by BogoGog24 on Apr 18, 2017 11:51:43 GMT
I disagree. If people didn't have crushes on each other, then no one would ever get together. It just depends who you're crushing on. If it's someone who is unattainable then yeah I agree it's not healthy. But if the feeling is reciprocated, then there's nothing bad about it.
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Post by Becky on Apr 18, 2017 14:27:30 GMT
I don't think having a crush on someone is unhealthy. It might be unwise, but how often do we feel how we 'should' feel? Now, being obsessed or infatuated with someone is unhealthy and something you should probably try and change. I don't really get crushes unless it's on a famous person, and I don't really ever properly fancy someone either. Granted, I've been in a relationship for nearly 6 years and I love him to pieces but even before then I've only properly fancied about 3 people and only had the odd crush. Since then I've not had a single one. I just don't really think that way or look for it. But then I think I'm in the minority, I just don't tend to see people in that way. Before my boyfriend I was happy on me tod (and was in denial for about 9 months before I admitted I fancied him and told him )
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Post by Deleted on Apr 18, 2017 14:37:02 GMT
I don't think that there is anything wrong with having a crush on somebody. I had a crush on my boyfriend for about a year before I gathered the courage to talk to him, now eight years down the line we are still together. Don't get me wrong, I think a line can be crossed if you become totally obsessed with someone, but generally crushes are either harmless or lead on to something more serious which is absolutely normal.
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