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Post by katy on Mar 23, 2016 19:32:46 GMT
Thanks guys it means a lot Me and my boyfriend of 8 years actually broke up last night kinda for this reason, it was just becoming a mess and making us both unhappy no matter how much we wanted it to work. Thanks for this thead cos I'm an emotional wreck today and it's helping me see its probably for the best. Sorry to hear about that Katy, eight years is a long time. Can you expand and tell us why the relationship became such a mess? I think he hasn't been into it for a while now but every time we've argued and it's come up I've just tried to tell myself it's fine and go on as usual cos it's been so long I didn't want it to end. It's rubbish and I feel crappy but I'm starting to realise it's never gonna work if it's only me who is truly interested in it lasting
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Post by Deleted on Mar 23, 2016 21:17:11 GMT
Me and my boyfriend of 8 years actually broke up last night kinda for this reason, it was just becoming a mess and making us both unhappy no matter how much we wanted it to work. Thanks for this thead cos I'm an emotional wreck today and it's helping me see its probably for the best. So sorry to hear that Katy. I hope that you feel better soon.
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Post by katy on Mar 24, 2016 8:14:50 GMT
Me and my boyfriend of 8 years actually broke up last night kinda for this reason, it was just becoming a mess and making us both unhappy no matter how much we wanted it to work. Thanks for this thead cos I'm an emotional wreck today and it's helping me see its probably for the best. So sorry to hear that Katy. I hope that you feel better soon. thank you x
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Post by Jinkxx on Mar 24, 2016 12:49:48 GMT
Such a thoughtful thread! Ok here goes my story: Indeed I have and had some too. My relationship with my mom and stepdad was toxic and always fights. Since I moved out 4 years ago it got better but I don't want to see them often. I still remember things. And my relationship is quite toxic and drains energy but I love my boyfriend so much and I don't know what to do. He is a drugs abuser so ben545 can understand I guess how mich it ruins you. I don't smoke, don't do drugs and rarely drink alcohol but I have to care of my boyfriend. He doesn't work cause of mental problems and some physical problems. At first I was so in love with him and living on a pink cloud and now, I love him but not IN love with him you guys understand? I cry a lot and sometimes think about quitting the whole relationship, just get rid of the lies and money problems and also all the stress. But he's also a victim. He went through things I didn't went through and cause of that he started using and can't just stop it. It's so difficult cause I wanna go further, build a future, another home but we can't afford that cause in fact I'm the only one who can pay the bills. I had hope I could make him stop using drugs and I really thought he would stop for me but honestly... I can't make him stop. I just enjoy the little good days we have. And sometimes escape in my work. I'm just so tired of all the lies and wasting time.. we're both young and could do so much more then this. And as @harvey said: What do you do when everything someone says upsets and frustrates you, yet there's a kind of brotherly love that compels you to keep them in your life? Exactly... I still love him even if it destroys me. And I can't end it if I still love him, wich I do.
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Post by Jinkxx on Mar 24, 2016 12:51:07 GMT
I think he hasn't been into it for a while now but every time we've argued and it's come up I've just tried to tell myself it's fine and go on as usual cos it's been so long I didn't want it to end. It's rubbish and I feel crappy but I'm starting to realise it's never gonna work if it's only me who is truly interested in it lasting So sorry to hear that. 8 years is long time!! You sound like a strong girl! Keep your head up!
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Post by ben545 on Mar 24, 2016 18:31:52 GMT
Such a thoughtful thread! Ok here goes my story: Indeed I have and had some too. My relationship with my mom and stepdad was toxic and always fights. Since I moved out 4 years ago it got better but I don't want to see them often. I still remember things. And my relationship is quite toxic and drains energy but I love my boyfriend so much and I don't know what to do. He is a drugs abuser so ben545 can understand I guess how mich it ruins you. I don't smoke, don't do drugs and rarely drink alcohol but I have to care of my boyfriend. He doesn't work cause of mental problems and some physical problems. At first I was so in love with him and living on a pink cloud and now, I love him but not IN love with him you guys understand? I cry a lot and sometimes think about quitting the whole relationship, just get rid of the lies and money problems and also all the stress. But he's also a victim. He went through things I didn't went through and cause of that he started using and can't just stop it. It's so difficult cause I wanna go further, build a future, another home but we can't afford that cause in fact I'm the only one who can pay the bills. I had hope I could make him stop using drugs and I really thought he would stop for me but honestly... I can't make him stop. I just enjoy the little good days we have. And sometimes escape in my work. I'm just so tired of all the lies and wasting time.. we're both young and could do so much more then this. And as @harvey said: What do you do when everything someone says upsets and frustrates you, yet there's a kind of brotherly love that compels you to keep them in your life? Exactly... I still love him even if it destroys me. And I can't end it if I still love him, wich I do. For me I lived in a small town and had got in with the wrong crowd and simply moving to the city following work opportunities helped reform my drug taking behaviour. I suffered quite badly from withdrawal at first. It's very sad to see so many failed or dysfunctional relationships on this thread.
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Post by Jinkxx on Mar 24, 2016 18:51:18 GMT
Such a thoughtful thread! Ok here goes my story: Indeed I have and had some too. My relationship with my mom and stepdad was toxic and always fights. Since I moved out 4 years ago it got better but I don't want to see them often. I still remember things. And my relationship is quite toxic and drains energy but I love my boyfriend so much and I don't know what to do. He is a drugs abuser so ben545 can understand I guess how mich it ruins you. I don't smoke, don't do drugs and rarely drink alcohol but I have to care of my boyfriend. He doesn't work cause of mental problems and some physical problems. At first I was so in love with him and living on a pink cloud and now, I love him but not IN love with him you guys understand? I cry a lot and sometimes think about quitting the whole relationship, just get rid of the lies and money problems and also all the stress. But he's also a victim. He went through things I didn't went through and cause of that he started using and can't just stop it. It's so difficult cause I wanna go further, build a future, another home but we can't afford that cause in fact I'm the only one who can pay the bills. I had hope I could make him stop using drugs and I really thought he would stop for me but honestly... I can't make him stop. I just enjoy the little good days we have. And sometimes escape in my work. I'm just so tired of all the lies and wasting time.. we're both young and could do so much more then this. And as @harvey said: What do you do when everything someone says upsets and frustrates you, yet there's a kind of brotherly love that compels you to keep them in your life? Exactly... I still love him even if it destroys me. And I can't end it if I still love him, wich I do. For me I lived in a small town and had got in with the wrong crowd and simply moving to the city following work opportunities helped reform my drug taking behaviour. I suffered quite badly from withdrawal at first. It's very sad to see so many failed or dysfunctional relationships on this thread. Yes it surprised me a bit so many people go through such tough times. So good you got better! You did very well
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Post by ben545 on Mar 25, 2016 17:12:45 GMT
For me I lived in a small town and had got in with the wrong crowd and simply moving to the city following work opportunities helped reform my drug taking behaviour. I suffered quite badly from withdrawal at first. It's very sad to see so many failed or dysfunctional relationships on this thread. Yes it surprised me a bit so many people go through such tough times. So good you got better! You did very well Some people have to be unemployed and some people have to suffer from mental illness. That's just the way society is. Good for you for sticking with the relationship. At least now I'm a law abiding citizen and I'm not doing anybody any harm or funding crime.
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Post by Avengium on Mar 28, 2016 14:28:07 GMT
Hi. I returned from holidays. And i ended a toxic relationship this week.
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Post by Jinkxx on Mar 28, 2016 14:47:41 GMT
Hi. I returned from holidays. And i ended a toxic relationship this week. Ah that must be difficult but maybe also relieving?
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Post by Avengium on Mar 28, 2016 14:52:37 GMT
Hi. I returned from holidays. And i ended a toxic relationship this week. Ah that must be difficult but maybe also relieving? This was difficult. But i thought, the best for me was end the friendship of years because it turned into a toxic relationship.
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Post by Jinkxx on Mar 28, 2016 19:09:01 GMT
Ah that must be difficult but maybe also relieving? This was difficult. But i thought, the best for me was end the friendship of years because it turned into a toxic relationship. Ah i see. Its a pity that friendships can turn into toxic relationships. I wish you all the best!
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Post by Elizayne on Mar 29, 2016 13:43:34 GMT
Yup! The sooner you get rid of them, the sooner life gets better. My ex use to make me feel like nothing with 'you cant leave me, its not like anybody else will ever love you anyway'. I sat on the train after burning myself making him dinner one night and thought you know what? fuck you mate.
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Post by Jinkxx on Apr 4, 2016 11:32:11 GMT
Yup! The sooner you get rid of them, the sooner life gets better. My ex use to make me feel like nothing with 'you cant leave me, its not like anybody else will ever love you anyway'. I sat on the train after burning myself making him dinner one night and thought you know what? fuck you mate. Strong descision! Good!
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