Toxic relationships Apr 4, 2016 12:09:06 GMT
Post by Mohican. on Apr 4, 2016 12:09:06 GMT
So focusing on your issue you're saying these friendships turned out to be
toixic for you because of drugs? Or was there more behind that?
Yes, I believe drugs change a person and hardly to their best. It's not only
the way they start to see things around themself, but their mind in general.
I have to say I've rarely met people like that, cause mostly they don't
fascinate me in the first place. People who do drugs are usually doing it to
escape certain issues and feelings. They are not comfortable with themself.
Those people lack charisma and sure enough it can be fun with them at a
certain point, but they can not be used for anything deeper than spending
random time together.
So far I think I've only had one toxic friendship. It was a girl I met in a club
and we got along well right from the start. But the more time we spent
together, the more I realized how truely f**cked up she was. It didn't take
her long to project her inner demons on me and that was the point where
I ended that friendship. It didn't take me long to understand that this
friendship wouldn't work out for me.
I don't know, I think there will always be people who try to drag you along
in their misery, it's up to you how much you let them.
It's something different though, if a good friend (say one you've known for
years and who's been there for you many times) lost their way and needs
help to get back on track. A true friend, one I love, I'd help to confront their
demons even if it put a lot of weight on me, too.
I think you have to find your own balance to deal with stuff like that.