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Post by Amanda on Jun 2, 2016 13:19:59 GMT
I think it's pretty much a fact that Chavril is back on. It seems they're taking things slowly this time. I think it's great Avril is giving her marriage a second try. Whatever they're having, it is not a friendship, despite what she said at the JUNO awards. She wants to keep it behind closed doors, and that's perfectly understandable. Marriage is no joke, and it's not about flushing it down the toilet whenever something doesn't work out. It requires patience, dedication and lots of love and commitment. Maybe Avril understood all this and gave it a second go. It's her second marriage already, and she seems to be taking it more seriously and trying hard along with Chad to keep their relationship and bond. Who knows how it will turn out? But one thing is for sure: to this date, they're more than friends. What is your reason to say so? Just curious. It feels so odd to me that they would seperate to then again very soon try their relationship again, and we all know Avril is very good at staying close to ex partners. Plus the whole Ryan thing is very confusing
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Post by Amanda on Jun 2, 2016 0:17:44 GMT
These are beyond beautiful! Well done AmandaThank you so much <3
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Post by Amanda on Jun 2, 2016 0:06:47 GMT
I can surely feel that there is more accepted now than 10 years ago, but it's still not at the point where I would say people feel safe. Even couples who do hold hands say that they very often are afraid every moment and they do feel a bit insecure, I think it will take a whole lot of time til the society changes the views. I however feel that our generations, people under 30 right now, are far more accepting and that when we get kids, that generation hopefully will be even more accepting. Another issue I've seen is that many, specifically lesbians, who kiss in public can get comments from random guys saying "can I join" Etc. while I do understand they just fancy the girls hot or whatever (because of movies if you get what I mean, because movies of two girls are often addressed to straight men.), it must be so annoying to be open and wanting to show love for your partner if you'll get bothered any second. It happened on a. Club recently, two girls were kissing and they had to move around 10 times to avoid sloppy comments about inappropriate actions. A question for you who asked this then, if you are afraid of holding hands of a guy, what is it that you're most afraid of? Is it what people think, what people might do like physical, what people might say or all of it? Like is it a specific fear "we" have of people around us?Sadly I'm afraid of everything that you mentioned- stuff like a lesbian couple kissing is a good example; I'm terrified of someone making a comment towards me, something physical or what they will say or think I don't think it is like a specific fear of strangers around me in a public place- but I do feel incredibly uncomfortable when I walk through town; if I notice people looking at me I'll walk faster to get out of their vision etc.. Being quite a shy and anxious person doesn't help with this kind of stuff I guess I understand because for example My sister said that everytime she sees a gay couple she thinks "ok so you two have sex with each other". Like that's her first thought. Not that's a nice couple or what's their names or their hobbies, and she say this way of thinking is very normal because "for me that's not a normal common relationship" she said. And it's this kind of mindset that makes it all too uncomfortable, knowing that people stick their noses into others business
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Post by Amanda on Jun 1, 2016 23:46:58 GMT
Random thought I've had for a long time- but for us LGQBT folk, do you ever get the sense that while being part of LGQBT is more accepted now than it was back a few years ago, if you had a same sex partner would you be brave/confident enough to hold their hand in public etc? Honestly, if I had a boyfriend I'm not sure if I'd be able to do that. Part of it is low confidence anyway but it's mostly by everyone else around me- as you don't know how they will react. I can surely feel that there is more accepted now than 10 years ago, but it's still not at the point where I would say people feel safe. Even couples who do hold hands say that they very often are afraid every moment and they do feel a bit insecure, I think it will take a whole lot of time til the society changes the views. I however feel that our generations, people under 30 right now, are far more accepting and that when we get kids, that generation hopefully will be even more accepting. Another issue I've seen is that many, specifically lesbians, who kiss in public can get comments from random guys saying "can I join" Etc. while I do understand they just fancy the girls hot or whatever (because of movies if you get what I mean, because movies of two girls are often addressed to straight men.), it must be so annoying to be open and wanting to show love for your partner if you'll get bothered any second. It happened on a. Club recently, two girls were kissing and they had to move around 10 times to avoid sloppy comments about inappropriate actions. A question for you who asked this then, if you are afraid of holding hands of a guy, what is it that you're most afraid of? Is it what people think, what people might do like physical, what people might say or all of it? Like is it a specific fear "we" have of people around us?
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Post by Amanda on Jun 1, 2016 23:34:06 GMT
What things are you refering to? And what culture are you embracing? If you don't mind sharing. I just see many posts about asexuality and being non-binary and I don't really understand it and it makes me feel quite ignorant. I'd be interested to find out more, but the people I've seen who are either asexual or non-binary say it's not their job to inform other people what it's like. Another thing I don't understand is how some non-binary people I've seen posting online are saying that they refuse to be put into a box and then label themselves anyway. It's just confused me is all, but I can completely understand not wanting to be labelled or to fit into a box. I have a friend who's asexual and she's tried explaining to me many times that sex is only romantic and it's hard to understand how you can not want to have sex but find it sweet and a way to be close to your partner. It's great how people see things so differently to one another. I also identify as transgender, specifically non-binary (which means that I don't identify as a man or a woman). If you're wondering how that's possible I'll try to explain it a little bit. I've always (since I was 4) known that I'm not a girl - I just never felt or thought of myself as one. Then when I started going through female puberty I felt more and more "yucky" and just generally very uncomfortable with my body (which is called gender dysphoria) because it was becoming more and more typically female. I hated (and still do) my chest the most. But if I imagine having a male body that gives me the same feelings of dysphoria. I still want to transition in some ways, just not in the ways that trans guys do. I want to go on low dose testosterone for a few months just so I can lower my voice to a more gender-neutral stage (only the change in your voice is permanent when you go on T, at least for the first year. If you stop, everything else goes back to normal.). I want to have a flat chest the most, so getting top surgery is the first thing I'm gonna do. I also wish I didn't have any genitals but that's impossible. So basically, I want to have a sort of a gender-neutral body. Of course, I'm just talking about myself, non-binary people are not all the same and some might feel differently than me. Ah that makes more sense to me now. Obviously I know it's not down to this, but do gender stereotypes play a part at all with being unhappy with the sex you're born as? Not wanting to be 'girly' or 'manly'. I hope this doesn't sound ignorant. Can I ask what pronouns you prefer to be called by? Do you prefer he or she, him or her? From my perspective, calling you "it" or "that" or even "them" would seem extremely rude. Maybe that's just a thing with the English language, I don't know. All I know is gender neutrality presents an issue for me when it comes to being polite. Yeah I really don't want to do it because of how rude it sounds. But if people want to be referred as 'it' or 'they' then that's absolutely cool. I just don't want to assume anyone's gender and offend anyone. I think the people who say they are not there to educate just probably mean that they get asked a lot. I can see where they are coming from like I know transsexual friends who constantly get asked from strangers, and usually also rude questions that is very personal like what is between your legs etc. and they feel like an open book. But I can also assure you that there are many people out there who you are free to ask who like to educate And about categories. I would love a world without labels, and that's the goal I see for the world. That would be the best. But until we can skip labels I think labels is very important since it brings people together . Like people of the same label can connect and share struggles and share thoughts. That's just my guess on people who are against labels but also labels themself hope I'm making sense!
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Post by Amanda on Jun 1, 2016 23:31:34 GMT
It's nice to see so many different sides, if i can call it that, from our members. No matter who you are and who you love shouldn't be a "bad" thing. You sexual preferences or non sexual. And the fact that you have to explain to others you meet why or how is so bad. I think this kind of psychology of humans is the most interesting, seeing most end up with someone. Personally i don't know what/who i am. And i think it's horrible to not know. I'm closing in on 20. All i can say for sure is that I'm not asexual. No matter if i like it or not, it is on my mind. But I've never felt anything for my fellow humans. Not a boy, or a girl. So seeing how you have been sure or had an idea of what your preferences was/is, I'm quite jealous of you! All i can say is you no matter what, should be proud of yourself. From straight, gay, transgender or what you might be. Only you can be you, and you have all rights to be so! Very nicely said! And I think it's always very hard to know. I've never been 100% sure, but I think also that's because I've never wanted to be 100% sure since I did not follow along with the norm. And people are so different, I'm more like you, I don't fall in love easy or even crush easy, so I've barley found any human that I really love or crush on, while some people manage to fall in love with many people and even the worst (I feel so horrible for all gays who fall in love with straight friends, or the opposite way). For me to know it's mainly been imagination and just the way I find myself thinking, also when I decided to """"experiment""""( Ahhahaa gosh I hate that word) when I was 15, I became 99% certain that there clearly were things I did not wanna do with guys which I had no issues doing with a girl. I guess time will always tell!
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Post by Amanda on Jun 1, 2016 18:35:42 GMT
I also identify as transgender, specifically non-binary (which means that I don't identify as a man or a woman). If you're wondering how that's possible I'll try to explain it a little bit. I've always (since I was 4) known that I'm not a girl - I just never felt or thought of myself as one. Then when I started going through female puberty I felt more and more "yucky" and just generally very uncomfortable with my body (which is called gender dysphoria) because it was becoming more and more typically female. I hated (and still do) my chest the most. But if I imagine having a male body that gives me the same feelings of dysphoria. I still want to transition in some ways, just not in the ways that trans guys do. I want to go on low dose testosterone for a few months just so I can lower my voice to a more gender-neutral stage (only the change in your voice is permanent when you go on T, at least for the first year. If you stop, everything else goes back to normal.). I want to have a flat chest the most, so getting top surgery is the first thing I'm gonna do. I also wish I didn't have any genitals but that's impossible. So basically, I want to have a sort of a gender-neutral body. Of course, I'm just talking about myself, non-binary people are not all the same and some might feel differently than me. Can I ask what pronouns you prefer to be called by? Do you prefer he or she, him or her? From my perspective, calling you "it" or "that" or even "them" would seem extremely rude. Maybe that's just a thing with the English language, I don't know. All I know is gender neutrality presents an issue for me when it comes to being polite. English really should add a word for it, because as you say, i think it or that also sounds rude. But perhaps not "them", because if i'm not wrong, them can also be used to girls and boys. In a more formal way. It's very smart in swedish because here for him we say han, for her we say hon, so for it/that we say hen. I've also heard americans saying "shim /she him" as a word, but I don't know if that's a word used to be mean (for example like tranny or fag...).
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Post by Amanda on Jun 1, 2016 18:06:58 GMT
On the topic of LGQBT I'm actually very proud of sweden (lol that's a first haha), because it was the first country to have same sex marriages and it's generally pretty good at working against homophobia. Of course there's homophobia here; and even worse for transgenders etc, but it's not socially accepted here to for example in a tv show say something homophobic.
And I know from my Brazilian friends there was a huge politic war in their county after one advert used a same sex couple, whereas in Sweden you kind of see same sex couples very often in ads and tv commercials etc just as straight couples. So it's also interesting to see how all countries are moving at different speeds when it comes to accepting.
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Post by Amanda on Jun 1, 2016 18:01:49 GMT
Such an awesome thread and thank you all for sharing guys, it's a bold step And just like you Mohican I was first very unaware of everyhing beyond sexualities, but now i've educated myself a whole lot more so to me theres no weird things about asexuality or transgenderism or queer-theories for me. When I was younger I even thought I was asexual, because I was never interested in either talking about boys or girls. Mainly boys, since when I was younger and in a small town, there was no LGQBT people around me in my community. But I think when I was around 12-13 I realized that I prefered girls and ever since that to like 1 year ago or 2 years ago it's been a battle to myself because my whole family and also cousins etc and people in my small town is very much against it. Haven't come out to my family or anything and I honestly don't think I will until many years, and for example I have no interest neither in talking to cousins or my bigger family because I have very little contact with them so it makes no sense for me to open up about such a personal matter for me. I mean they barley know my hobbies so why should they know about my love-life haha.Only thing bothering me is society aswell as hiding from parents and siblings, as it's something I have to do. Don't want to get into details of why. I'm even a bit nervous writing this here just because i'm afraid by some magical powers this info will reach my family, which it no way in hell can hahhaa.. (my parents doesnt even know how to google anything haha).
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Post by Amanda on Jun 1, 2016 13:23:42 GMT
I can understand that, but on the other hand, what's the point of having all those photos if they're just going to keep them hidden? Isn't that kind of the point? Why pay all that money for them and no one can see them? If they put a tag on it like Avril.ru does, they won't have to worry about anyone stealing them. I guess for a collector it's very nice to have unseen photos
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Post by Amanda on May 31, 2016 19:43:19 GMT
If they do it the way bandaid France do it then they get some from Sony music and they buy some of them. Bandaids France pays a lot of money to get the highest quality stuff and unseen ones. I know bandaids France reached out to me a year ago when we had a discussion and they basically said they have a lioooot of unseen stuff to release. I don't know why they haven't, I mean my guess is that if they release the photos all fansites will upload them without credit to them. And the unseen photos also makes them feel special because unfortunately in past meetings between sharifa and avril, avril has very rarely given opportunities to meet/gifts for bandaids France like for italia and Brazil and US
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Post by Amanda on May 30, 2016 7:15:49 GMT
Please dont confirming CM and HH are the same songs. Althoguh the chords are the same, CM has completely different tone and we heave never listen to the original version yet. They were confirmed being the same song since they were registrated with the same song ID. And yes it has a different tone but the whole song itself took a very different lead I don't remember which bandaid member found this out but it was a big thread with prints of the proof and I kind of really see how the songs fits, the timing of verses chorus bridges etc. there's a mixed version on YouTube with the complete me instrumental and hello heartache vocals
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Post by Amanda on May 29, 2016 19:07:43 GMT
Oh god hahahahaa
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Post by Amanda on May 29, 2016 17:14:39 GMT
I totally understand where you are all coming from. I am longforing more music but mostly longforing her communicating with us and letting us know what she's up to, making us involved etc because as for this moment it somehow feel like she's not caring about the fans support that much. I am longforing new music HOWEVER I am not frustrated on avril because of the lack of music and vacation, because I totally understand her. She's been through a roller coaster and yes she good enough now to travel, and that's what she's doing. If you ask anyone who has worked and crashed their first priority is not work again but to live life. The only thing I'm Bothered about is that we have no idea about the time for music. If she told us "I don't see new music this year" I would be perfectly happy, not happy because it's not music but happy because she is informing us. So to me there's no rush in new music or even to stop traveling etc, I just wish she gave a little more in for the fans support. Ever since she got better from Lyme she basically stopped replying fans messages and questions on Twitter, and stopped letting us know hints or just letting us know how she is doing. And personally maturity for me isn't defined by stuffed animals or educational books, it's more how you look at life etc. I find avril as quite an childish person - not because of hello kitty but because of the way she is and always has been. Ever since her beginning her songs has had pretty childish immature lyrics (PS this doesn't equal bad lyrics, just not poetic or so) etc. I don't find her more immature because she loves hello kitty. I had to move from my parents house when I was 16(21 now) and start my own life and get mature super fast and I got a very high education aswell as other things and I still love my unicorn stuffed animal in my bed, at the same time I like to spend hours at night drinking wine and discussing litterateur So personally for me my image of avril being childish or teenage-ish or so has nothing to do with the new avril but just how she has always been, her spirit oh and I personally don't care if she turns into looking like a living Barbie doll because after all I'm not here for the looks I'm here for the music. If I cared about the appearance so much of my idol I think I would change into another one or so. And of course - avril has also matured in ways within her Lyme that we all don't know.
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