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Post by iamteffi on Sept 3, 2015 4:30:26 GMT
As always, marriage is not about love it is about commitment. And commitment requires more than love. So I appeal don't get married just because you're crazy in love.
Still hoping Avril will have a happy family of her own.
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Post by .fanavriL. on Sept 3, 2015 4:49:14 GMT
I was so shocked when I heard this, it's so sad but glad they ended it on good terms and that they will always continue to be good friends. They was such a good married couple and now we won't get to see her have Chavril babies
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Post by NowISee on Sept 3, 2015 6:24:41 GMT
A part of me was hoping she would have kids, now I'm not so sure she's going to ever have any so what if she isn't?! Not saying she won't but it's totally ok to not have kids. She has always been quite vague on topic "maybe, one day", "after few years maybe" etc. I always felt that Chad wanted them more than Avril. If she wants to - she has still plenty of years to do so.
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Post by StrongSweet on Sept 3, 2015 6:31:51 GMT
Now we know Avril could easily break up with, maybe just a tiny thing
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Post by elina on Sept 3, 2015 6:40:10 GMT
It's possible to still be in love with a person and know that it's not enough to keep you together and happy. Maybe you're fundamentally different in some ways that always lead to dramatic fights when you're both stressed and tired, and over time you get tired of it. Some people can handle that, others want a more peaceful relationship. Sometimes the person who drives you mad with lust and feelings of extreme happiness is not the person with whom you could have a long-term marriage. It can break your heart and you wish there was a way, but rationally you know it will never change and you just have to let go of the relationship.
My theory, since they seemed to be driven by sexual attraction in the beginning and developed a friendship a bit later. Perhaps the honeymoon period of their relationship ended too quickly because of Avril's disease? It can put a strain on a relationship if for some reason you skip that part... even with relationships where you're friends first and then lovers, there is usually a 'honeymoon' period when you start going out and being together.
Chad was probably supportive of Avril during the worst of her illness, but it's not that uncommon that after it's over, the healthy partner has started to think of the ill partner as more of a friend or family member than lover. Nurturing your spouse shouldn't start so early in life, it feels more natural when you're both elderly and sex is no longer such a huge deal...
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Post by Deleted on Sept 3, 2015 7:05:28 GMT
It wasn't so much a shock as in the sense that I thought it would never happen in a million years, but it was definitely a shock because it was sudden and unexpected. I don't stalk the internet for updates on Avril's personal/social life, but I didn't know of any substantial issues in their relationship. There weren't really any hints that they would be separating. Sure, we know that Chad was at a strip club and drinking without Avril there, but I wouldn't call that a hint of their separation. I don't stalk the internet for this information either, and generally speaking I don't have the slightest interest in celebrity news. But as it's Avril I guess I care a bit more, and over the past couple of years we've had umpteen threads on Bandaids about something one of them did or said, which usually raised a red flag. I'm not talking about one isolated incident where Chad went to a strip club or whatever, but multiple things which just didn't seem right. There's little point in going over every detail I remember now that they've officially separated, but let's just say that they were a very strange couple and I'm not at all surprised that their marriage wasn't meant to be.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 3, 2015 7:38:33 GMT
The only reason I wasn't completely negative of AL era was that Avril had found her love, but now.... :negative:
Personally don't think there will be a third marriage.
Only imo, but when there was a divorce rumour last year, there must have been something going on between them, 'cause usually where there's smoke there's fire...
They had tried to work things out, I can see that by Avril posting pictures of her and Chad Kroeger together, but weren't successful in the end.
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Post by Becky on Sept 3, 2015 8:10:58 GMT
Why are people making out that her life is over and she's now too old to have kids or ever get married again? Some people get married in their 50s/60s. It isn't a perfect world. She has plenty of time ahead of her for both marriage and kids. And if she wants neither, then ofc that's absolutely cool too. It's her life.
As for her getting married too quickly, we're not in her relationships therefore don't know what they were like. Maybe she is impulsive (which isn't a bad thing) and maybe both times it just felt incredibly right. I don't think we're in any position to judge. Nor do we have any idea why they broke up.
I just hope she's happy or will be soon and instead of being knocked down she'll be fired up and ready to take life, as a whole, by storm.
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Post by Becky on Sept 3, 2015 8:12:26 GMT
Now we know Avril could easily break up with, maybe just a tiny thing How do we know that? Maybe something really big has happened, maybe many tiny things have added up over the years. We have no idea and I don't think we can rightfully judge her for something we don't know about or something that may not even be her fault.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 3, 2015 8:49:25 GMT
Why are people making out that her life is over and she's now too old to have kids or ever get married again? Some people get married in their 50s/60s.
Age is not the point here. If Avril considers her past two marriage as mistakes, it won't be likely that she'll marry for the third time - and even if she does decide to go for a third marriage, I daresay that it will likely to fail too.
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Post by Becky on Sept 3, 2015 9:03:18 GMT
Why are people making out that her life is over and she's now too old to have kids or ever get married again? Some people get married in their 50s/60s.
Age is not the point here. If Avril considers her past two marriage as mistakes, it won't be likely that she'll marry for the third time - and even if she does decide to go for a third marriage, I daresay that it will likely to fail too.
But how could anyone possibly know that? And how do we know she considers them mistakes?
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Post by Jack on Sept 3, 2015 9:17:15 GMT
As I said before, I think Avril should take her time with relationships next time around. If I was her I would be single for at least a couple of years, and then if a relationship starts, take it easier before even considering to get married again. I'm sure that when she said it "felt right", she didn't lie, but when it comes to get married, it should be a well-thought decision and not something "impulsive". Yeah, I'm sure there are couples who got married quickly and last a lot (or even were together for life), but there are also people who takes 5+ years of relationship before deciding to get married, even having children.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 3, 2015 9:17:02 GMT
Age is not the point here. If Avril considers her past two marriage as mistakes, it won't be likely that she'll marry for the third time - and even if she does decide to go for a third marriage, I daresay that it will likely to fail too.
But how could anyone possibly know that? And how do we know she considers them mistakes? Feels like scepticism :greenie: If we approach this matter that way, we won't be able to make opinions or foresee anything related to Avril.
Even if "human minds are complex things", there are still things called general cases. So I am just saying that it is "likely" for things to turn out that way.
And about Avril considering them as mistakes.... I think Avril did say that 'she is not the marrying kind' when she talked about her first divorce, if I remember correctly.
Being impulsive may not be a bad thing, but it sure isn't a wise action.
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Post by Amanda on Sept 3, 2015 11:51:54 GMT
Perhaps they know their issues but still kept on trying get their flame back by doing dates and other things. I know many couples who are on the way to break up but then again try to get their flame by going out on dates and make t seems like they're madly in love but then they just give up trying
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Post by BogoGog24 on Sept 3, 2015 12:03:49 GMT
Avril is so private and she never said very much concerning her first divorce, so I don't expect we will hear much about this from her end.
Chad on the other hand, is the exact opposite, and it's possible we might hear a little more from him about it.
We're not in Av's relationships so we don't know the reasons why she gets into them or the reasons behind the breakups. But it sounds to me like she needs to stop dating men who have a full time career like she does. It doesn't sound like they have tons of time to be with each other, which would make sense for why she dated Brody because he didn't have a job or career a and could just follow her around all over the world.
But I think Av got tired of that as well, having a man with no career of his own and being with her all the time. Sounds to me like she needs a happy medium- a guy that isn't so busy he can't make proper time for her, but also not somebody with no life of his own and being with her 24/7.
I disagree that being impulsive isn't a bad thing. It most definitely can be a bad thing and I've never heard of any instances where being impulsive turned out to be a good thing to do. But we also don't know whether this was an impulsive decision by Avril or not. There was almost a whole year between engagement and the actual wedding. If she was having second thoughts at all, she had plenty of time to bow out. I think at the time it was what felt right for her and them.
We can't really say Avril should do this or that because it's her life and she'll handle her personal business how she believes is right for her. But I do think it'd be wise of her to take some time for herself again before jumping into another relationship. Rebound relationships usually never work out. I think when she lived in France by herself for awhile that seemed good for her and like she really needed that.
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