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Post by Deleted on Sept 3, 2020 6:15:19 GMT
TRIGGER WARNING: Suicide. I don't know much about this, so I'll have to ask. When a hospital puts someone on a suicide watch, does that mean this person was brought to the hospital because they tried to commit suicide maybe a few hours before? Or can the hospital put someone a suicide watch even when that person didn't try to do anything harmful to themselves (yet) but maybe their depression gets really bad so it puts them on risk of them doing anything harmful to themselves? Sorry if this is confusing. I'm not in the medical field, although from my understanding a hospital may put someone on suicide watch when they believe that a person is exhibiting warning signs that may indicate that they may seriously and/or fatally harm themselves. I'm hoping all does end up well with your ex-boyfriend and that you're doing alright. Only sending positive thoughts your way! Thank you so much. I’m trying to only think positively
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Post by Jinkxx on Sept 3, 2020 11:22:09 GMT
Gosh guys... I hope you're all doing okay. I've read through the last couple of pages and we're dealing with a lot of shit. Good to talk about it! I wish everyone the best! I also find it hard to comfort people through depression, even if I'm also in a sort of depression I get why it's difficult for someone to comfort them.
About the thing of getting marries before 30 or having failed otherwise.. I know there are countries like that but it sounds weird to me tho. When I was young I always wanted to get married. Now I'm very okay with just having a boyfriend and be 'nothing' from eachother. We're together but not married or other legal things where it's on paper. I don't know, I'm scared to do so. I'm okay with how it is now but sometimes I wonder about my long and forgotten dream to get married. I still find it beautiful when people are getting married. I get teary eyed a bit then but well yeah..
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Post by Deleted on Sept 3, 2020 11:51:29 GMT
I wanted to send him a message that tells him that I miss him so much (even though I'll probably get left on read again, that's fine), but my friend said that I shouldn't do it because by saying that would mean that I "dump" my feelings over him while at the moment he's the one who needs to "dump" his feelings to someone. I don't know. I truly miss him so much, I hope he knows that.
By the way, he's home now with the supervision of his mother. Hasn't really updated anything.
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Post by Jinkxx on Sept 3, 2020 12:52:02 GMT
I wanted to send him a message that tells him that I miss him so much (even though I'll probably get left on read again, that's fine), but my friend said that I shouldn't do it because by saying that would mean that I "dump" my feelings over him while at the moment he's the one who needs to "dump" his feelings to someone. I don't know. I truly miss him so much, I hope he knows that. By the way, he's home now with the supervision of his mother. Hasn't really updated anything. From what I've read from your posts I think you should send him a small message. Just something that he knows you think about him.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 3, 2020 14:20:57 GMT
I wanted to send him a message that tells him that I miss him so much (even though I'll probably get left on read again, that's fine), but my friend said that I shouldn't do it because by saying that would mean that I "dump" my feelings over him while at the moment he's the one who needs to "dump" his feelings to someone. I don't know. I truly miss him so much, I hope he knows that. By the way, he's home now with the supervision of his mother. Hasn't really updated anything. From what I've read from your posts I think you should send him a small message. Just something that he knows you think about him. I just did. I hope he's ok
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Post by slapstick on Sept 3, 2020 16:40:39 GMT
Why must everything be so complicated, and so many of us so troubled I'm hoping everything works out for all of you..
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Post by Panchali on Sept 3, 2020 17:49:50 GMT
Gosh guys... I hope you're all doing okay. I've read through the last couple of pages and we're dealing with a lot of shit. Good to talk about it! I wish everyone the best! I also find it hard to comfort people through depression, even if I'm also in a sort of depression I get why it's difficult for someone to comfort them. About the thing of getting marries before 30 or having failed otherwise.. I know there are countries like that but it sounds weird to me tho. When I was young I always wanted to get married. Now I'm very okay with just having a boyfriend and be 'nothing' from eachother. We're together but not married or other legal things where it's on paper. I don't know, I'm scared to do so. I'm okay with how it is now but sometimes I wonder about my long and forgotten dream to get married. I still find it beautiful when people are getting married. I get teary eyed a bit then but well yeah.. Its hard to understand unless you have grown up in such a society. At least, when you do decide to get married you will be happier about it. In India, (also countries like Pakistan & Bangladesh that have similar culture), it's more critical because getting divorced is harder. People think there is something wrong with the person and the person isn't able to adjust in the family. There will be lots of slander also in the community which makes it difficult for the person to live. Men can remarry easily and divorced women are seen as 'damaged goods'. The problem is women can't live alone here either. Also, they are expected to make more compromises and adjustments in the family. Mostly, these days girls don't want to get married in joint families as there can be a lot of interference from the in-laws. One of my friends is married in a traditional joint family, she can't go out without permission, has to dress up the way they want (only wear sarees), is not allowed to have a job, has had two daughters and has to listen to her in laws taunt about the inability to have a son, etc. The amount of dowry they had to give the groom's family is another story. She is from bania caste among Hindus, they spend a lot in weddings and give a lot of dowry. They start saving money the moment a girl is born into the family. That is why, having a "son" is getting money and "daughters" are seen as liabilities. Though in many cases, even men are at the receiving end of patriarchy. Anti-dowry laws in India are such that women can get the entire family of the husband jailed, non bailable by filing a complaint and the burden of proof lies on the husband. They are often misused. Among Muslims, certain laws are even worse. They are legally allowed to keep more than one wife. Thankfully triple Talaq is banned now (In Islam, man can divorce wife by saying or texting "divorce" thrice.) I'm thankful, my caste/community has freedom and I'm a part of the educated elite class (though divorce is still a stigma). But many can't escape this, I hope the next generation gets better. From what I've read from your posts I think you should send him a small message. Just something that he knows you think about him. I just did. I hope he's ok Don't worry, if he is with his Mom, he has someone to take care of him. There isn't much you can do from so many miles away.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 4, 2020 16:43:42 GMT
Gosh guys... I hope you're all doing okay. I've read through the last couple of pages and we're dealing with a lot of shit. Good to talk about it! I wish everyone the best! I also find it hard to comfort people through depression, even if I'm also in a sort of depression I get why it's difficult for someone to comfort them. About the thing of getting marries before 30 or having failed otherwise.. I know there are countries like that but it sounds weird to me tho. When I was young I always wanted to get married. Now I'm very okay with just having a boyfriend and be 'nothing' from eachother. We're together but not married or other legal things where it's on paper. I don't know, I'm scared to do so. I'm okay with how it is now but sometimes I wonder about my long and forgotten dream to get married. I still find it beautiful when people are getting married. I get teary eyed a bit then but well yeah.. Its hard to understand unless you have grown up in such a society. At least, when you do decide to get married you will be happier about it. In India, (also countries like Pakistan & Bangladesh that have similar culture), it's more critical because getting divorced is harder. People think there is something wrong with the person and the person isn't able to adjust in the family. There will be lots of slander also in the community which makes it difficult for the person to live. Men can remarry easily and divorced women are seen as 'damaged goods'. The problem is women can't live alone here either. Also, they are expected to make more compromises and adjustments in the family. Mostly, these days girls don't want to get married in joint families as there can be a lot of interference from the in-laws. One of my friends is married in a traditional joint family, she can't go out without permission, has to dress up the way they want (only wear sarees), is not allowed to have a job, has had two daughters and has to listen to her in laws taunt about the inability to have a son, etc. The amount of dowry they had to give the groom's family is another story. She is from bania caste among Hindus, they spend a lot in weddings and give a lot of dowry. They start saving money the moment a girl is born into the family. That is why, having a "son" is getting money and "daughters" are seen as liabilities. Though in many cases, even men are at the receiving end of patriarchy. Anti-dowry laws in India are such that women can get the entire family of the husband jailed, non bailable by filing a complaint and the burden of proof lies on the husband. They are often misused. Among Muslims, certain laws are even worse. They are legally allowed to keep more than one wife. Thankfully triple Talaq is banned now (In Islam, man can divorce wife by saying or texting "divorce" thrice.) I'm thankful, my caste/community has freedom and I'm a part of the educated elite class (though divorce is still a stigma). But many can't escape this, I hope the next generation gets better. I just did. I hope he's ok Don't worry, if he is with his Mom, he has someone to take care of him. There isn't much you can do from so many miles away. He just posted some pictures of his cat on Instagram. Though that doesn't really mean anything, I have a feeling that he's ok now.
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Post by ben545 on Sept 4, 2020 17:25:47 GMT
I've been feeling quite happy today. Like maybe I have turned a corner and the future is brighter. I don't know, I hope so.
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Post by katy on Sept 4, 2020 20:30:10 GMT
It’s our last night in Sicily so a little sad, but grateful as I didn’t think we’d get away this year with Covid!
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Post by Panchali on Sept 5, 2020 14:24:32 GMT
I’m so tired today
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Post by Jinkxx on Sept 8, 2020 6:52:09 GMT
Got a damn headache at work. I woke up with it. Maybe cause I went to bed very early last night.
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Post by MyHappySk8er on Sept 10, 2020 3:22:31 GMT
I'm feeling relieved. I'm taking 5 classes, with 3 of them being level 400 courses. I decided that I'm gonna quit my job on September 19th(I already gave my two weeks). Right now, I'm working EVERY DAY that I'm not busy with school I admit that these 5 classes with this work schedule is probably doable, but I have hobbies and interests and every time I come home from work, I feel too lazy and tired to study. What really cemented this point was when I took a quiz yesterday and I'm pretty sure I did bad on it. I'm honestly glad that I'm gonna have lots of time to study and have fun. I live with my parents and I have enough money to eat out a few times a week and to buy some fun stuff for a year.
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Post by Panchali on Sept 10, 2020 5:59:26 GMT
^^ oh this is so relatable! I’m studying too with my job and this work from home scenario has given me time. But I can’t leave my job, the degree I’m doing is out of interest and has nothing to do with my job 😆 I already have a masters, getting another one 😂
Im giving two papers on 21st sept and 5th oct.
I understand the tiredness after coming home from work, you don’t get time to do anything and it gets frustrating.. though you get used to it after a while. When people have families it’s like no time at all I guess. I really miss carefree childhood days so much..
All the best!
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