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Post by Panchali on Jul 29, 2020 19:44:18 GMT
I think I have found a little way to not feeling too attached/to forget my ex: try to think about all the cringy shit that he has ever done lol. It's weird but it kinda works Listen to He Wasn’t 😉
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Post by UnderAlexSkin on Jul 29, 2020 22:14:25 GMT
I think I have found a little way to not feeling too attached/to forget my ex: try to think about all the cringy shit that he has ever done lol. It's weird but it kinda works Listen to He Wasn’t 😉 Btw we always can rewatch He Wasn’t music video a little bit due to her signature I’m feeling to exhausted after a late evening running training session with my dog and looking forward for an upcoming morning as a decent opportunity to sleep very well and as much long as it’s possible hehe
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Post by ben545 on Aug 5, 2020 18:12:01 GMT
I’ve spent my evening applying weed killer to some weeds in the flower beds, then sat inside for the last hour googling the strongest weed killer available in the UK for the weeds in the paving. So I’m feeling really quite old. I also have trouble killing the weeds growing outside my house through gaps in the paving. You can't legally buy very strong weed killer. I was thinking about investing in an 'eco-weed burner' as I don't know what else to do. It burns weeds and looks very effective.
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Post by katy on Aug 5, 2020 20:15:33 GMT
I’ve spent my evening applying weed killer to some weeds in the flower beds, then sat inside for the last hour googling the strongest weed killer available in the UK for the weeds in the paving. So I’m feeling really quite old. I also have trouble killing the weeds growing outside my house through gaps in the paving. You can't legally buy very strong weed killer. I was thinking about investing in an 'eco-weed burner' as I don't know what else to do. It burns weeds and looks very effective. I got one called Gallup (apparently it’s the strongest allowed in the UK...you’re meant to dilute it down to like 25ml per litre but I did 30ish) and it’s so good! I did it a week ago and everything’s completely dead, same problem as you between the gaps in the paving. It was like £25 for two litres but given how much it gets diluted I think it’s gonna last years lol
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Post by ben545 on Aug 6, 2020 16:59:28 GMT
Feeling a bit pissed off. My authority on the till has been restricted. Not a very good reason given by the manager. I can only assume they think I'm stealing when I'm not. They didn't like me doing refunds.
I'm so glad that I can share this here. Feels good getting this off my chest. I've done nothing wrong.
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Post by ben545 on Aug 7, 2020 16:44:23 GMT
Feeling happy. My authority has been reinstated on the till. Ha! I pretended I didn't care and when the manager started doing all the refunds she realised it was a pain in the arse and so reinstated me to do it again.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 8, 2020 23:10:45 GMT
I'm not sure if this is because of the jet-lag or not. But I came here to the UK in winter this year, and didn't really have much problem with my sleeping pattern at that time. Sure, I would sleep at 7 pm, and woke up at 5 or 6 am. But it was a good sleep, not feeling tired at all, in fact I woke up really.... fresh. That only happened for like a week then I had the normal sleeping pattern. Then school started and sometimes I had to force myself to be up at 2 am and then sleep at like 4 or 5 am. Then because I think I'm used to it, I would sleep at 5 am, woke up at 1 or 2 pm, BUT I still felt like I had enough sleep, I woke up not tired. This has gotten worse because sometimes I would be up until like 9 am then, not feeling tired at all, went on with my day like normal, and I would sleep at 4 pm, then woke up at 10 pm or 11 pm, then I would still be up again at 9 am. I didn't really have a problem with that because again, I felt like I had enough sleep and I woke up not feeling tired at all. Lately, I've been sleeping at 5 am, suddenly woke up at 9:30 am and feeling sooooo tired and sleepy but for some reason can't go back to sleep. This is really messing me up because I hate that feeling. Is it possible to still be jet-lagged after 6 months? Is it even because of the jet-lag? Is there a way to fix it? Should I even go to the doctor. I'm scared.
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Post by Panchali on Aug 9, 2020 11:40:07 GMT
I'm not sure if this is because of the jet-lag or not. But I came here to the UK in winter this year, and didn't really have much problem with my sleeping pattern at that time. Sure, I would sleep at 7 pm, and woke up at 5 or 6 am. But it was a good sleep, not feeling tired at all, in fact I woke up really.... fresh. That only happened for like a week then I had the normal sleeping pattern. Then school started and sometimes I had to force myself to be up at 2 am and then sleep at like 4 or 5 am. Then because I think I'm used to it, I would sleep at 5 am, woke up at 1 or 2 pm, BUT I still felt like I had enough sleep, I woke up not tired. This has gotten worse because sometimes I would be up until like 9 am then, not feeling tired at all, went on with my day like normal, and I would sleep at 4 pm, then woke up at 10 pm or 11 pm, then I would still be up again at 9 am. I didn't really have a problem with that because again, I felt like I had enough sleep and I woke up not feeling tired at all. Lately, I've been sleeping at 5 am, suddenly woke up at 9:30 am and feeling sooooo tired and sleepy but for some reason can't go back to sleep. This is really messing me up because I hate that feeling. Is it possible to still be jet-lagged after 6 months? Is it even because of the jet-lag? Is there a way to fix it? Should I even go to the doctor. I'm scared. I think you are stressed and your routine is messed up. You need to fix your routine and find someone thing to de-stress yourself physically and mentally. Weather change can also have a drastic effect on your body. Do you also feel homesick or lonely? What you mentioned happens to me too at times when I’m very stressed/ overworked or if I’m staying all alone for a long time.
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Post by Panchali on Aug 9, 2020 11:42:32 GMT
Terrified of death. For some reason I start to think about it and the concept of never being able to notice anything eternally spookes me so much But your user name is ‘killer’! Why 😂 Jk 🤗 anyone who comes, will go. I’m not terrified of my own death but afraid of loosing loved ones.. or a violent death.. You reminded me of a poem by a saint..Kabir in My language which I can translate badly.. Didn’t find the end of ocean of love.. Whoever is born, shall go.. Listen my friend, listen my dear.. Walking alone, no one by your side You will reap what you have sowed.. Listen my friend, listen my dear.. Tell me what has passed in this life.. The weight that you are carrying on your head, who will take it down for you later... Sitting on a broken boat, your ignorance will drown you.. It actually refers to awakening your soul.. the one who’s soul is awakened transcends the universe and isn’t afraid of death, remains blissful in life and death. The soul lives on, just like we discard our clothes for new ones, the soul does the same until it’s awakened and reunites with the original source, attaining moksha.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 9, 2020 12:34:07 GMT
I'm not sure if this is because of the jet-lag or not. But I came here to the UK in winter this year, and didn't really have much problem with my sleeping pattern at that time. Sure, I would sleep at 7 pm, and woke up at 5 or 6 am. But it was a good sleep, not feeling tired at all, in fact I woke up really.... fresh. That only happened for like a week then I had the normal sleeping pattern. Then school started and sometimes I had to force myself to be up at 2 am and then sleep at like 4 or 5 am. Then because I think I'm used to it, I would sleep at 5 am, woke up at 1 or 2 pm, BUT I still felt like I had enough sleep, I woke up not tired. This has gotten worse because sometimes I would be up until like 9 am then, not feeling tired at all, went on with my day like normal, and I would sleep at 4 pm, then woke up at 10 pm or 11 pm, then I would still be up again at 9 am. I didn't really have a problem with that because again, I felt like I had enough sleep and I woke up not feeling tired at all. Lately, I've been sleeping at 5 am, suddenly woke up at 9:30 am and feeling sooooo tired and sleepy but for some reason can't go back to sleep. This is really messing me up because I hate that feeling. Is it possible to still be jet-lagged after 6 months? Is it even because of the jet-lag? Is there a way to fix it? Should I even go to the doctor. I'm scared. I think you are stressed and your routine is messed up. You need to fix your routine and find someone thing to de-stress yourself physically and mentally. Weather change can also have a drastic effect on your body. Do you also feel homesick or lonely? What you mentioned happens to me too at times when I’m very stressed/ overworked or if I’m staying all alone for a long time. I think you are right about the stressed out part. I am, because of... something that I can't really explain, but I don't think I'm lonely even though I'm alone most of the time. Is it possible that it's *my body/mind* that feels lonely but I just don't realize it? Is it even possible to have depression when you don't realize it? Oh man, that sounds pretty damn scary lol And in the UK summer the sun set at about 9:30 pm, could that also be the reason? I'm always used to the sun rising at like 5:30/6 am and the sun setting at 5:30 pm. And yes, because of the hot weather it's harder for me to easily fall asleep at night I'm not sure about the homesick feeling, sometimes I do miss home but then I remember that if I go back home I would be even more depressed since I have a lot of disagreement with my mom.
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Post by Uncle Bob on Aug 9, 2020 14:38:07 GMT
Is there a way to fix it? Should I even go to the doctor. Insomnia is a very common problem. And, your anxiety about it, seems to be making it worse. There is a lot of free help available online. link If none of the advise online helps, by all means, see a doctor. There's no need to suffer. It's such a common problem, there are many effective treatments available. I had this problem, in the early 90s. There was a major change in my work schedule. I went to a doctor, and he prescribed a non-narcotic medication. It worked like a charm. He prescribed two months worth. After three weeks, I didn't need it anymore. I refilled the prescription anyway, just in case. Ten years later, I finally threw out the remaining pills.
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Post by Panchali on Aug 9, 2020 17:50:44 GMT
I think you are stressed and your routine is messed up. You need to fix your routine and find someone thing to de-stress yourself physically and mentally. Weather change can also have a drastic effect on your body. Do you also feel homesick or lonely? What you mentioned happens to me too at times when I’m very stressed/ overworked or if I’m staying all alone for a long time. I think you are right about the stressed out part. I am, because of... something that I can't really explain, but I don't think I'm lonely even though I'm alone most of the time. Is it possible that it's *my body/mind* that feels lonely but I just don't realize it? Is it even possible to have depression when you don't realize it? Oh man, that sounds pretty damn scary lol And in the UK summer the sun set at about 9:30 pm, could that also be the reason? I'm always used to the sun rising at like 5:30/6 am and the sun setting at 5:30 pm. And yes, because of the hot weather it's harder for me to easily fall asleep at night I'm not sure about the homesick feeling, sometimes I do miss home but then I remember that if I go back home I would be even more depressed since I have a lot of disagreement with my mom. You're right about the sunrise/sunset part. The first time I went to Europe, it was all bright even late, whereas I was used to the sun starting to set after 6:30 PM.. It was like, I found it hard to tell my brain its time to sleep because its not dark outside. North-east Indians, especially Bengalis.. I have seen they always sleep early and are up 4:30 - 5 AM because the sun there rises early. I do feel it has an effect on your body and mind. People who travel from warm countries to extremely cold places where you don't see the sun for months do get depressed . It might not be depression but, from my personal experience when I stayed in shared apartment/PG...If I had a roommate, I would feel better and happier, even if we don't talk to each other much. Being alone for a long time, if no one's there in my apartment for weekends at a stretch... I would have trouble falling asleep and sort of feel stressed without any reason. Family stresses me as well, but I need people around me. Some of my old roomates would keep the TV on the entire night. Another friend of mine can't sleep at all alone. She would keep calling everyone at night (she has six siblings and lived in a small house, so she is habitual of living in a noisy environment). Also, its interesting to note, during the lockdown here in India, there were reports of a lot of suicides in the news, one suicide of a famous person triggered several others. I think isolation subconsciously affects our mind. Though, I have seen some people are not bothered by staying alone at all. Try putting some calming music, you will find a lot of them on Youtube. People also listen to ocean waves/ rain etc.. whatever is calming to you. Have soothing teas in the evening. Reduce your screen time as it also causes insomnia.. make a comfortable environment for yourself. Thai massage is really de-stressing though I don't recommend this during a pandemic. Yoga also helps. Play a musical instrument, if you can. If nothing works.. as Uncle Bob suggested seek professional help.
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Post by slapstick on Aug 9, 2020 19:40:57 GMT
I think you are right about the stressed out part. I am, because of... something that I can't really explain, but I don't think I'm lonely even though I'm alone most of the time. Is it possible that it's *my body/mind* that feels lonely but I just don't realize it? Is it even possible to have depression when you don't realize it? Oh man, that sounds pretty damn scary lol And in the UK summer the sun set at about 9:30 pm, could that also be the reason? I'm always used to the sun rising at like 5:30/6 am and the sun setting at 5:30 pm. And yes, because of the hot weather it's harder for me to easily fall asleep at night I'm not sure about the homesick feeling, sometimes I do miss home but then I remember that if I go back home I would be even more depressed since I have a lot of disagreement with my mom. You're right about the sunrise/sunset part. The first time I went to Europe, it was all bright even late, whereas I was used to the sun starting to set after 6:30 PM.. It was like, I found it hard to tell my brain its time to sleep because its not dark outside. North-east Indians, especially Bengalis.. I have seen they always sleep early and are up 4:30 - 5 AM because the sun there rises early. I do feel it has an effect on your body and mind. People who travel from warm countries to extremely cold places where you don't see the sun for months do get depressed . It might not be depression but, from my personal experience when I stayed in shared apartment/PG...If I had a roommate, I would feel better and happier, even if we don't talk to each other much. Being alone for a long time, if no one's there in my apartment for weekends at a stretch... I would have trouble falling asleep and sort of feel stressed without any reason. Family stresses me as well, but I need people around me. Some of my old roomates would keep the TV on the entire night. Another friend of mine can't sleep at all alone. She would keep calling everyone at night (she has six siblings and lived in a small house, so she is habitual of living in a noisy environment). Also, its interesting to note, during the lockdown here in India, there were reports of a lot of suicides in the news, one suicide of a famous person triggered several others. I think isolation subconsciously affects our mind.Though, I have seen some people are not bothered by staying alone at all. Try putting some calming music, you will find a lot of them on Youtube. People also listen to ocean waves/ rain etc.. whatever is calming to you. Have soothing teas in the evening. Reduce your screen time as it also causes insomnia.. make a comfortable environment for yourself. Thai massage is really de-stressing though I don't recommend this during a pandemic. Yoga also helps. Play a musical instrument, if you can. If nothing works.. as Uncle Bob suggested seek professional help. I became a total damn nutcase this year. Last year some of my major problems started (not that I didn't always have some troubles here and there), but the pandemic chaos was a nail in the coffin for my mental health. I couldn't see my HC worker mom with whom I'm rather close for quite a while, I couldn't visit uncle/grandparents, and though I had a few other contacts (including a very 'listening' friend to whom I remain indebted immensely for the help), I was literally melting down on the regular. It's strange, in a way, but I think the mere rhetoric, the anticipation, all the what ifs, the uncertainty, was what made even a bigger nightmare, and not only actual reality. Even today I sometimes sleep with light on at night, though I don't even live alone. The worst thing is, I was aware, and wasn't aware of how much I dove into unhealthy methods of coping, it messed me up, for real, so I think sometimes pro help indeed is the answer, before you get even deeper into the abyss.
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