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Post by falling on Aug 16, 2023 11:44:00 GMT
I probably won't be as active on here for a bit. My sister in-law passed away this morning. I appreciate all of the kind words from everyone here. It means a lot more than you may know. I empathize with you, I hope you can cope with emotions and find support in your loved ones
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Panchali
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Post by Panchali on Aug 17, 2023 6:38:01 GMT
Asking for advice. Is it okay to ask that 'friend' of mine why she hasn't replied back? It's almost 4 weeks ago (tomorrow it is). And I'm so frustrated about it. It seems like she wants to forget that she still has to answer me. She said: I will get back at you if I know how to answer you. 4 weeks later... right? She did said some non important stuff in the meantime like that she went to a hairdresser and send me a pic with: Greetings from our Holiday place. What am I supposed to say? I can't act normal like before so I notice I become a bit abrupt/curt in my messages. And sorry, this situation seems so stupid to feel messed up about but I needed to vent. I think some people don’t take messaging etc very seriously. It’s really hard to comment since I don’t know your friend very well, maybe she is like this in general? I would also suggest you to meet/ or talk to her in person. You can’t know the tone or observe body language in messaging/ phone calls. I think it would be better to talk and confront in person. But if she continues to give vague answers and looks like she doesn’t care . I would advice you to distance yourself for the sake for your own sanity. Your situation isn’t stupid at all. I get it, it happens. Sometimes the situation isn’t as bad and we tend to overthink as well.
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Post by shessolucky on Aug 17, 2023 13:38:59 GMT
Asking for advice. Is it okay to ask that 'friend' of mine why she hasn't replied back? It's almost 4 weeks ago (tomorrow it is). And I'm so frustrated about it. It seems like she wants to forget that she still has to answer me. She said: I will get back at you if I know how to answer you. 4 weeks later... right? She did said some non important stuff in the meantime like that she went to a hairdresser and send me a pic with: Greetings from our Holiday place. What am I supposed to say? I can't act normal like before so I notice I become a bit abrupt/curt in my messages. And sorry, this situation seems so stupid to feel messed up about but I needed to vent. As Panchali already said I would try to talk to her in person, you could try to call her or ask her for a coffee maybe. Its not a stupid question at all.
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Post by madelyn on Aug 17, 2023 16:54:41 GMT
Asking for advice. Is it okay to ask that 'friend' of mine why she hasn't replied back? It's almost 4 weeks ago (tomorrow it is). And I'm so frustrated about it. It seems like she wants to forget that she still has to answer me. She said: I will get back at you if I know how to answer you. 4 weeks later... right? She did said some non important stuff in the meantime like that she went to a hairdresser and send me a pic with: Greetings from our Holiday place. What am I supposed to say? I can't act normal like before so I notice I become a bit abrupt/curt in my messages. And sorry, this situation seems so stupid to feel messed up about but I needed to vent. Yes please, reach out now. Don’t wait anymore, you’ve been patient enough. Don’t worry about looking or feeling bad for wanting an update from her, no one is actually that busy. She probably isn’t taking it seriously, please reach out soon, and it’s not stupid, you asked for help and there’s nothing wrong with it🩷
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Jinkxx
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Post by Jinkxx on Aug 17, 2023 17:40:19 GMT
Thanks guys! In person is better yes but she has anxiety of driving and since I’ve always went to her place and in all those years and she has visited me just once I don’t want to put in that much effort to drive to her since it’s a 1,5 hour drive to get to her. I just reached out and asked if she thought about it since it’s already 4 weeks ago. She said she has thought about it but doesn’t know how to reply and says she has a lot on her mind. (Don’t we all have a lot on our minds?) She did said it probably comes of as being not interested in me so I said that it feels like that and everyone is busy and has a lot going on, it’s not always an excuse.
It says a lot about how I feel about this whole situation since I don’t want to spend my free hours and money to drive to her again. I feel like she could put in a little more effort if she wants this friendship to continue like before. Like… seen my house once in all those years. There are other ways to get here besides driving but a train and bus takes way longer but that’s not always my problem.
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Post by Panchali on Aug 17, 2023 18:33:41 GMT
Thanks guys! In person is better yes but she has anxiety of driving and since I’ve always went to her place and in all those years and she has visited me just once I don’t want to put in that much effort to drive to her since it’s a 1,5 hour drive to get to her. I just reached out and asked if she thought about it since it’s already 4 weeks ago. She said she has thought about it but doesn’t know how to reply and says she has a lot on her mind. (Don’t we all have a lot on our minds?) She did said it probably comes of as being not interested in me so I said that it feels like that and everyone is busy and has a lot going on, it’s not always an excuse. It says a lot about how I feel about this whole situation since I don’t want to spend my free hours and money to drive to her again. I feel like she could put in a little more effort if she wants this friendship to continue like before. Like… seen my house once in all those years. There are other ways to get here besides driving but a train and bus takes way longer but that’s not always my problem. in that case just call her and tell her how you feel about the situation.
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Jinkxx
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Post by Jinkxx on Aug 18, 2023 11:00:43 GMT
Thanks guys! In person is better yes but she has anxiety of driving and since I’ve always went to her place and in all those years and she has visited me just once I don’t want to put in that much effort to drive to her since it’s a 1,5 hour drive to get to her. I just reached out and asked if she thought about it since it’s already 4 weeks ago. She said she has thought about it but doesn’t know how to reply and says she has a lot on her mind. (Don’t we all have a lot on our minds?) She did said it probably comes of as being not interested in me so I said that it feels like that and everyone is busy and has a lot going on, it’s not always an excuse. It says a lot about how I feel about this whole situation since I don’t want to spend my free hours and money to drive to her again. I feel like she could put in a little more effort if she wants this friendship to continue like before. Like… seen my house once in all those years. There are other ways to get here besides driving but a train and bus takes way longer but that’s not always my problem. in that case just call her and tell her how you feel about the situation. Tried a few times and she didn't pick up. I just leave it for now otherwise it'll mess up my mental health.
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Post by shessolucky on Aug 20, 2023 11:26:20 GMT
in that case just call her and tell her how you feel about the situation. Tried a few times and she didn't pick up. I just leave it for now otherwise it'll mess up my mental health. Yeah, it sounds as if you should let go. I know its not always that easy.
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Post by madelyn on Aug 21, 2023 18:11:41 GMT
Take a break and focus on yourself for the time being Jinkxx 🩷
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Post by Jinkxx on Aug 22, 2023 10:36:46 GMT
Thanks guys, will do! I have to work 2 weeks and then I'm out of office for 4 weeks!! In the third week me and my boyfriend going on a Holiday to Greece for 1 week. Looking forward to a whole new environment! And in the weeks before we're going to Greece I'd like to visit some friends and going out for lunch or dinner more often than we usually do! :)So 11 days of hard work before it's Holiday time!
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Post by madelyn on Aug 29, 2023 17:47:59 GMT
Almost September!
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Post by falling on Aug 29, 2023 18:49:46 GMT
Probably my favorite month
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Post by Deleted on Aug 31, 2023 1:48:30 GMT
My parents just called to tell me my dog Roxy passed. So im currently listening to sad Avril songs and crying and screaming the lyrics
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Post by falling on Aug 31, 2023 13:39:06 GMT
My parents just called to tell me my dog Roxy passed. So im currently listening to sad Avril songs and crying and screaming the lyrics Please accept my condolences. The loss of a pet can be just as painful as the loss of a loved one. My budgie also died in August, so music is really like medicine.
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Post by tirasayshello on Sept 3, 2023 11:11:05 GMT
My parents just called to tell me my dog Roxy passed. So im currently listening to sad Avril songs and crying and screaming the lyrics I'm really sorry for your loss... it's never easy to lose something you're so close to and love, but I promise you that things will get easier.
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