Jinkxx
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Post by Jinkxx on Nov 13, 2023 12:19:49 GMT
Most fights these days are also to do with me not getting married or not liking any proposal that comes. I just don’t feel attracted to any spark easily. So I don’t know what to do 🤷♀️. One of my friend’s wife passed away today, they had a baby last year and she was just 25. So sad. She has always been ill, her family didn’t disclose her illness to him or his family before they got married 😕 That's awful. I'm sorry to hear that, my condolences. So if I understand it correctly, if you're never going to marry someone you keep living with your parents? Forgive me if I already asked this earlier but are you allowed to choose your own husband? Like if you meet someone and you fall in love and want to marry that person, that's okay for your parents?
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falling
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Post by falling on Nov 14, 2023 7:03:30 GMT
I'm in the hospital. It's incredibly boring here. I'm the youngest here, mostly older people here. Today I had surgery, everything went quickly, well, there was no pain. I just feel a huge sense of relief. As for the quarrel with my mother, she was the first to meet halfway and we made peace. Everything is becoming better 😁
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Panchali
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Post by Panchali on Nov 14, 2023 7:27:33 GMT
Most fights these days are also to do with me not getting married or not liking any proposal that comes. I just don’t feel attracted to any spark easily. So I don’t know what to do 🤷♀️. One of my friend’s wife passed away today, they had a baby last year and she was just 25. So sad. She has always been ill, her family didn’t disclose her illness to him or his family before they got married 😕 That's awful. I'm sorry to hear that, my condolences. So if I understand it correctly, if you're never going to marry someone you keep living with your parents? Forgive me if I already asked this earlier but are you allowed to choose your own husband? Like if you meet someone and you fall in love and want to marry that person, that's okay for your parents? You know what I had seen this friends’s astrological chart before he got married and told him his spouse will have health issues. Now he will think I didn’t warn him. Yes.., if people don’t get married they live with parents, also may adopt kids. Actually if I marry there is a chance I have to live with the husband’s parents. Unless the guy wants to live separately or has a job away from home town and parents don’t want to leave their home town. But most in laws will keep visiting, and stay for months. Many women start facing issues with in laws and there are fights, they separate homes after marriage. In delhi, a lot of joint families .. they like have a huge house and separate floors.. like my boss, she has her in laws on the ground floor, first floor her brother in law, his wife and kids, they live with their kids on the second floor. If the in laws and family is nice, you have a lot of Support otherwise life for girls are hell, because you are expected to do a lot .. chores and stuff. Love marriages do happen, but parents will oppose only if religion is too different or the caste is too low, or financially there’s huge gap. Unless the family is too traditional . In traditional families they won’t allow. India is very diverse.. my own cousin married a Muslim girl so initially both families were not in favour but they kept persuading so they gave in. Love marriages in India actually have higher divorce rates. Most of my friends who had love marriage have got divorced. I think it’s probably cuz in arranged people are more practical. India has very low divorce rates like 1% or so but I think it’s getting a bit common these days. It used to be unheard of, but now I see a lot in my age group. Girls have become more independent and won’t put up with crap but a lot of guys have this mindset where girls have to adjust more.
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Panchali
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Post by Panchali on Nov 14, 2023 7:28:52 GMT
I'm in the hospital. It's incredibly boring here. I'm the youngest here, mostly older people here. Today I had surgery, everything went quickly, well, there was no pain. I just feel a huge sense of relief. As for the quarrel with my mother, she was the first to meet halfway and we made peace. Everything is becoming better 😁 Get well soon dear 🍵
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Post by Deleted on Nov 14, 2023 14:22:50 GMT
Im feeling upset and lost and confused. So i have this friend and hes so toxic and mentallh abusive and he does not know it and i try to tell him so many times. Yesterday i was trying to talk to him about those NPC trends and how its so weird to me people do that and people donate money and he just goes thats thed dumbest thing to ever care about let them fucking live who fucking cares. ANd i go ok you can be way nicer and he just goes "Im legit just saying my opinion why are you so fucking fragile" Like damn im sorry i dont like the way you talk to me i didnt know that was being fragile. And thten last week, so he hates Avril so much for no reason and Taylor too and he was talking about doing a favorite song bracket and hes like oh but wait cuz all youre gonan fucking do is songs by That Bitch who shall not be named (Avril) and That Overrated Bitch who writes good songs (Taylor) Andi was like woah dude stop and hess like "Maybe thtas just my opinio.n ever think about that?" Like yes calling someone a bitch is an opinion.. WHAT!?!?! Like ehs awful, everyone knows hes awful, i was talking to my friend Zoey about it, she also dropped him and is like yeah hes a fucking asshole why you still talking to him. AN dhonestly its hard to drop someone but legit hes so awful and toxic to me i cant stand it anymore. AN then he tries to play the card that im the toxic and fragile one. Like no dude, youre just an asshole liviing in a castle and thinking youre better than everyone.
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falling
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Post by falling on Nov 15, 2023 11:33:19 GMT
My great-grandmother died tonight. She was the last of my great-grandmothers. But in a way it's a relief. She was sick for almost 10 years. She was bedridden, and lately she had lost her mind. It was as if she lived in her own world. She was almost 90 years old. So much is happening this year.
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Post by madelyn on Nov 17, 2023 17:27:57 GMT
been inactive for the past months, but i missed this site and everyone. hope you all are doing well
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Post by shessolucky on Nov 24, 2023 21:23:40 GMT
My great-grandmother died tonight. She was the last of my great-grandmothers. But in a way it's a relief. She was sick for almost 10 years. She was bedridden, and lately she had lost her mind. It was as if she lived in her own world. She was almost 90 years old. So much is happening this year. Im so sorry for your loss!
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Post by shessolucky on Nov 24, 2023 21:37:31 GMT
I got elected as a lay jury at a court for the next 4 years and I really dont know how to do that with little kids. I've been thinking about it all day, I cried because we actually plan on having another child but how should this work when you hang out in court all day, for days If there can't be Made a decision, maybe with a newborn and Im too old to wait 4 years. Like my husbands the working part and hes in foreign cities/countries all the time and Im home all day for childcare. I heard a lot that you dont have any chance to get out of this, but I talked to a lawyer by phone and he was a little more optimistic. We will see, needed a drink today, maybe two. and its like they plan all the days for you you dont have any saying. Its crazy. I Said I wanted to do that three years ago, like there was no Family Planing ahead, a doctor even told me I probably couldnt get pregnant and then the chance to really get elected is so little (I thought, lol).
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falling
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Post by falling on Nov 27, 2023 22:15:40 GMT
I just feel a little sad for no reason. This happens to me sometimes
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Post by shessolucky on Nov 29, 2023 13:20:05 GMT
I just feel a little sad for no reason. This happens to me sometimes Its probably alright to get a little sad sometimes If you dont suffer from it, makes the good times even better. Its getting darker outside, theres less light and everything, maybe it helps you to go for a walk outside.
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Panchali
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Post by Panchali on Nov 30, 2023 6:07:11 GMT
I just feel a little sad for no reason. This happens to me sometimes happens with me too many times.
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bonez2005
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Post by bonez2005 on Dec 1, 2023 19:06:20 GMT
i was feeling good for part of the day but them i got a bad headache and i got really tired suddenly. i think it might be because i had mono back in may and now i think i still have the side effects. but idk i could just be getting a cold or something.
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Post by falling on Dec 2, 2023 8:11:05 GMT
i was feeling good for part of the day but them i got a bad headache and i got really tired suddenly. i think it might be because i had mono back in may and now i think i still have the side effects. but idk i could just be getting a cold or something. I hope you feel better, take care of yourself
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bonez2005
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i will drink as much Limoncello as i can.
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Post by bonez2005 on Dec 4, 2023 13:33:43 GMT
i was feeling good for part of the day but them i got a bad headache and i got really tired suddenly. i think it might be because i had mono back in may and now i think i still have the side effects. but idk i could just be getting a cold or something. I hope you feel better, take care of yourself thank you sm <3
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