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Post by Deleted on Aug 27, 2020 10:25:17 GMT
Well yeah I guess everybody's different, but sometimes my mom likes to tease me about not going out with anyone at my age.... I know she's half joking but I guess she kinda wants me to already have someone now. idk maybe that's just how asian parents work haha. My dad, not so much though. True. But in India it’s a taboo if you aren’t married by 30. Also, I notice even though people have love marriages, arranged marriages are more successful for some reason. I guess love fizzles out, arrangement doesn’t? Also kids or even adults don’t tell parents they are seeing someone unless they want to get married.. telling parents is another task 😆 Whether families agree or not is another issue. People in my country used to think that if you're a woman and is unmarried before you turn 30, you're basically "failed at being a woman" or whatever that means, while it's okay for men to stay single until they're almost 40. But I guess now not so much? And I know a lot lot of people who still think that way. It's kinda annoying. And yeah I never really tell my parents about my love life because you're right about it being another task
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Post by UnderAlexSkin on Aug 27, 2020 11:14:10 GMT
True. But in India it’s a taboo if you aren’t married by 30. Also, I notice even though people have love marriages, arranged marriages are more successful for some reason. I guess love fizzles out, arrangement doesn’t? Also kids or even adults don’t tell parents they are seeing someone unless they want to get married.. telling parents is another task 😆 Whether families agree or not is another issue. People in my country used to think that if you're a woman and is unmarried before you turn 30, you're basically "failed at being a woman" or whatever that means, while it's okay for men to stay single until they're almost 40. But I guess now not so much? And I know a lot lot of people who still think that way. It's kinda annoying. And yeah I never really tell my parents about my love life because you're right about it being another task Well, me at 22: Just imagine Taylor as a guy here - that would be my absolute current copy
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Post by Deleted on Aug 27, 2020 13:21:10 GMT
People in my country used to think that if you're a woman and is unmarried before you turn 30, you're basically "failed at being a woman" or whatever that means, while it's okay for men to stay single until they're almost 40. But I guess now not so much? And I know a lot lot of people who still think that way. It's kinda annoying. And yeah I never really tell my parents about my love life because you're right about it being another task Well, me at 22: Just imagine Taylor as a guy here - that would be my absolute current copy SAME! To quote Avril "We don't give a fuck, and we're never gonna change"
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Post by ben545 on Aug 27, 2020 19:04:28 GMT
I'm on this tinder thing and the truth is I don't really want to have kids so then I'm left wondering what am I doing on it? I mean I really don't like children very much. I have no burning ambition to have children but I get lonely and appreciate female company. I can hardly look after myself, why would I want children? I guess I'm what is known as a "time waster".
Anyway, I'm 41 now. Getting on a bit. Getting a lot of attention from Chinese women on tinder for some reason. Very strange... The thought of having half Chinese children fills me with dread. Normally Chinese people keep themselves to themselves. Sorry to generalise.
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Post by MyHappySk8er on Aug 27, 2020 20:51:29 GMT
I'm on this tinder thing and the truth is I don't really want to have kids so then I'm left wondering what am I doing on it? I mean I really don't like children very much. I have no burning ambition to have children but I get lonely and appreciate female company. I can hardly look after myself, why would I want children? I guess I'm what is known as a "time waster". Anyway, I'm 41 now. Getting on a bit. Getting a lot of attention from Chinese women on tinder for some reason. Very strange... The thought of having half Chinese children fills me with dread. Normally Chinese people keep themselves to themselves. Sorry to generalise. Yes. There are some exceptions, but most Asians would prefer to date within their own culture.
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Post by Panchali on Aug 28, 2020 18:48:39 GMT
I have such a bad headache..
[mention]ben545 [/mention] it’s great that you are clear about what you want and you don’t feel the tremendous pressure to get married and have kids that most of us feel here. People get forced into it just because of society or because parents blackmail emotionally and they are not really ready or mature enough for it.
I want to get married but I feel so wholesome so there isn’t exactly a need or a void that I feel.
Meeting prospective guys is so stressful though. People generally oversell themselves and it’s really hard. I had spoken to a lot of guys and now I’m exhausted 😝
[mention]myhappysk8er [/mention] That’s true. I don’t know about other Asians but esp in Indian/ Pakistani culture people feel that westerners aren’t very committed and divorce easily. It’s a terrible stereotype. Marriage in conservative societies is a gamble. If you marry the right person.. great.. else lives get ruined as separation is hard.
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Post by katy on Aug 29, 2020 13:54:22 GMT
Happy. We’ve been in Sicily since Wednesday and just arrived at our villa for a week, it’s beaut.. Pool day every day
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Post by ben545 on Sept 1, 2020 18:32:30 GMT
I'm feeling down, really down in the dumps. Like really shitty. I didn't know I was capable of experiencing such prolonged bouts of depression. I feel fucking terrible.
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Post by RockBitch on Sept 2, 2020 9:26:57 GMT
I'm feeling okay.. but i have some pain...
In terms of pregnancy the baby is growing well, and HE is active there!
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Post by Deleted on Sept 2, 2020 18:33:34 GMT
Pretty awful. My ex boyfriend was put on a suicide watch yesterday and I'm worried about him so much. I've sent him some messages but obviously I was just left on read. It's okay though, I understand. I hope he will be okay soon. I fucking hate the fact that I can't be with him.
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Post by ben545 on Sept 2, 2020 19:06:55 GMT
Pretty awful. My ex boyfriend was put on a suicide watch yesterday and I'm worried about him so much. I've sent him some messages but obviously I was just left on read. It's okay though, I understand. I hope he will be okay soon. I fucking hate the fact that I can't be with him. Terrible news. Hang in there. It seems to me, from an outsider's point of view, that you have something special together and that you belong together. Unfortunately life is not always that simple.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 2, 2020 20:16:33 GMT
Pretty awful. My ex boyfriend was put on a suicide watch yesterday and I'm worried about him so much. I've sent him some messages but obviously I was just left on read. It's okay though, I understand. I hope he will be okay soon. I fucking hate the fact that I can't be with him. Terrible news. Hang in there. It seems to me, from an outsider's point of view, that you have something special together and that you belong together. Unfortunately life is not always that simple. Thank you. I feel so bad because I also don't really know how to comfort someone dealing with depression.
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Post by katy on Sept 2, 2020 21:14:02 GMT
Terrible news. Hang in there. It seems to me, from an outsider's point of view, that you have something special together and that you belong together. Unfortunately life is not always that simple. Thank you. I feel so bad because I also don't really know how to comfort someone dealing with depression. just make sure they know you’re there if they want to talk. until they decide they want help theres not an awful lot you can do unfortunately
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Post by Deleted on Sept 2, 2020 21:58:34 GMT
TRIGGER WARNING: Suicide.
I don't know much about this, so I'll have to ask. When a hospital puts someone on a suicide watch, does that mean this person was brought to the hospital because they tried to commit suicide maybe a few hours before? Or can the hospital put someone a suicide watch even when that person didn't try to do anything harmful to themselves (yet) but maybe their depression gets really bad so it puts them on risk of them doing anything harmful to themselves? Sorry if this is confusing.
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Post by Underclass King on Sept 3, 2020 1:05:58 GMT
TRIGGER WARNING: Suicide. I don't know much about this, so I'll have to ask. When a hospital puts someone on a suicide watch, does that mean this person was brought to the hospital because they tried to commit suicide maybe a few hours before? Or can the hospital put someone a suicide watch even when that person didn't try to do anything harmful to themselves (yet) but maybe their depression gets really bad so it puts them on risk of them doing anything harmful to themselves? Sorry if this is confusing. I'm not in the medical field, although from my understanding a hospital may put someone on suicide watch when they believe that a person is exhibiting warning signs that may indicate that they may seriously and/or fatally harm themselves. I'm hoping all does end up well with your ex-boyfriend and that you're doing alright. Only sending positive thoughts your way!
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